Tina Seelig

And I asked them after we go around the room, who told you this?

Where did you get this story?

Because this is just a story.

I mean, honestly, if you don't do well on an exam, are you really going to die?

Right.

No, right?

If somebody doesn't call you back after a date, is it really the end of the world?

No.

But we so often think it is that we're not willing to go out and do it again.

And so your friend, that's such an interesting thing.

I have a whole chapter in this book about resilience and about by fostering it, you get second and third and fourth and fifth chances.

But if you don't, you get stuck and it's much less likely that you're going to be lucky.

I agree.

I was talking with a friend of mine the other day and he told me a story I thought was just so fascinating about his little daughter, who's not that little, maybe she's 12.

And she had come home from school and she had biked home and he opened the door for her and she was crying.

And he said, oh my gosh, what happened?

She said, I got lost on my way home.

Now, there were lots of ways in which he could have responded.

He could have said, oh, my gosh, that must have been so scary.

I'll pick you up tomorrow.