Tina Selig

And you only can do that if you know how the physics of luck actually works, right?

There is a cause and effect in the world.

Oh my goodness, you're absolutely right.

You're absolutely right.

One of the key tools for someone who's lucky is resilience.

Being able to, as you say, dust yourself off and get back up on the horse.

When I go around with my students and I ask them, what is their mental model for failure?

Like what happens when you hit bottom?

What is that made of?

And people say, oh, it's burning lava or a black hole, quicksand.

They're like, wow.

If that was really the case, I could imagine you wouldn't want to try anything if you think that if you fail, you're going to end up in a black hole.

Now, other students and other people I talk to say, oh, no, it's a trampoline or it's rubber or it's a swimming pool.

I dive in and then come back up.

And I invite people to think about where they got this message about what was gonna happen when they fail.

I mean, are you really gonna die if you get a B on your exam?

Are you really gonna die if you ask someone on a date and they say, no, thank you?

Are you really gonna die if you apply for a job and you don't get it?

No, of course not.

So helping people rethink the consequences of failure or disappointment so that they're willing to take some more calculated risks.