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Oh, you know, just enjoying life. Excellent. In the warm, in the great area here. Awesome. What's up? Well, my question to you is, how do I move past my sexual attraction to my ex-wife?

Well, we were married for 23 years and we've now been divorced for three years. And, you know, I've had relationships with new women and whatever else, but it never seems to... or satiate the same way as it did with my ex-wife.

I would say it would be a bit of all of that.

Yeah, when you say it like that, yes.

Uh, well, yeah. I mean, like you said earlier, it was, you know, somebody that I was with for 23 years and divorced. Well, she lost, she lost respect for me. And in the end, I mean, I had some business deals that went bad and, you know, there, there were money issues and,

that went on and, you know, I don't want to throw the word narcissist out there, but I mean, she certainly falls into a lot of those personality traits. Gaslighting was, was her biggest, her biggest nastiness to her. So it was, you know, in, you know, and then, and then after we got divorced, I mean, she came out as a lesbian too. So that went, That might have played a factor in a little bit.

You think? I don't think it was only a small factor. I don't think it was a huge factor, but I knew she was gay when I was married to her, but it never seemed to affect anything otherwise. But, I mean, she was just a very difficult person. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.

It was hard to do that in 2008 and went down for millions. Oh, there you go. Okay. I can't hide that.

How do I move past my sexual attraction to my ex-wife? I've had relationships with new women, but it never seems to gratify the same way as it did with my ex-wife.

Oh, yeah. We go out to the lake, go wakeboarding and surfing and all that stuff. Yeah, no, I have a group of guys that I hang out with. So every time you date, what happens? I'm nearly... I'm sorry?

Yeah, sometimes. Part of me is that while I'm 52, to put some context to it, is that I'm out in the dating market of 50-year-old women and they come with some wild issues too. So do you! Yeah. Well, I know, but it's all, it's all in how you deal with them too. Right. Um, or what you want to get involved with. Right.

Um, a lot of, they're, they're all going, yes, they're going through their divorces at the same time.

Uh, serenity. Peace. Awesome. Peace, peace, peace. I love that. Um, My ex-wife made it very difficult for me to be with my own family, so I spent quite a lot of time reconnecting with my own parents who are on their last days. Amazing. Kind of thing. So I'm enjoying that, and I've opened a new business, which is looking very profitable, so I'm happy with that.

Yeah. I mean, I've heard you use the same kind of advice in the past. I guess I just never applied it to myself.

you know, grieve it and move on.

And when you have kids together, it sort of puts another layer on there, right?

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Well, actually we did have watch me go, never slow.

If you asked anybody in town who they loved more, they would say, I love nothing more than a good couple. And that's a good couple. Nothing could come between them.

Yeah.

Last time I played pickleball was in a crosswalk. It was pretty good. It was pretty good. I mean, it's still fun. It was hurtful. I got hurt a lot. Basically, I just hit a pickle at a ball.

No. What's it called when someone's trying to fuck with your relationship? Sabotage. No. Yeah. Sabotage. God damn it, Joe.

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Come on. Don't cry. They're balloons. Don't cry, Matty. You can't cry over balloons.

I'll go get some more balloons.

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So then in the kitchen, they're just making small talk about the science and stuff like that. And then at the bar, this is where we just see them working all over the restaurant and stuff. And Austin is now making drinks and talking to a VIP server. Siobhan.

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Yeah. messy ass molly so then um back to molly alone now uh siobhan comes up she's like hey roomie for tv she's like oh my god hey roomie for tv yeah last night was like i mean wow what a night so basically this is siobhan talking she's like basically emmy starts bragging that she gets a lot of store credit at one of the stores every month and i just like laughed it off but then i thought about it

And I was like, wait a minute. We started buying dresses for work from that same store recently. So does that mean that she's buying those with store credit and pocketing the money that we send her?

Yeah, I actually agree with you that even if that happened, I'm team Emmy because she didn't steal their money. I mean... It's like she used her own store credit.

Or it could be a problem if it was something like, we could get dresses at this store for $10, but then the store Emmy's hooked up with is $20. So she made us all spend $20. You know what I mean? So they could have had some kind of bargain. Something like that. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And especially because it's obvious these two girls are coming in like, oh, my God, it's finally episode three where they're letting us do something. So let's come fucking take on Emmy. I mean, that's clearly what they're doing because they're roommates and they're teaming up. And it goes one scene, the NFL thing, and then the next scene, the dress thing.

But all of that said, love these girls. Great work. It's a little ham-handed. It's a little ham-handed, but great work. That's what the show's about. Yeah. And I just love them. I mean, next year we have to remember to nominate them for Best Newbie. Yeah. What?

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Who was the one who started that? It just, like, caught on. But I've been called ham hands my whole life, so I understand. I knew where that one came from.

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So Molly's like, well, if you buy something at a discount and then charge someone full price, rude. Okay, but is that what's happening? Because now you're adding the discount thing. That wasn't what was told to you, Miss Twisty. And she goes, rude, first of all. And second of all, you shouldn't be profiting off your colleagues. I was like, really?

Because literally you guys go into work when you're not working and they profit off of you every time you tip them. So Molly's like.

it's on my wad my wad today is we're gonna do 30 military presses with a stanchion and this one's broken i can't do it so then we get a split screen of everybody working working working working and then will comes into the bar with his like lips he's just like hey and high fives molly and he's like sorry to disturb you molly she goes how we feeling he's like good no stella today more like a high noon maybe i'm getting flirting vibes from will with molly and i don't like it

She's doing the one arm push up off of a stanton. So Siobhan is like, Emmy, want to chat? And she's like, yeah. Yeah, especially if we can do it inside. Stanton free. Yeah. So they go in and Brad's like, yeah, Will and I are close, but I think he's done some things wrong. And then we see a flashback to Maddie and Brad gossiping in the back room.

And she's like, oh, my God, he's come in here multiple times drunk and has talked shit about me to strangers. Brad's like, yeah, I've had clients come up to me and go, Will was in the bar last night saying not good things about his girlfriend.

She's like... She's like... I would... I would... I would never do that. I would literally never do that. And she's like, I volunteered to help Michaels purchase all the VIP service dresses with my credit card like a normal person. And then they came in. And guess what? All the girls love that. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

That's, like, so fucking shitty. That is, like...

So then Siobhan's like, yeah, whoa, the reason why this occurred? And she's one of those girls that slowly pets her hair like it's a cat that's just on her shoulder. She's like, the reason this occurred is because we never bought from there before. So I was like, oh, I'm sorry. Are we just too fancy for a Target now? Like... But this is, like, such a fucking character call-out.

I mean, it's like. I don't need to fucking order dresses. Michael's asked me to order dresses. Do I even need to order them? No, I did it as a fucking favor.

So then Michaels is telling us he's like he tells us that he came out during the first semester of college and that his dad was accepting. But his mom was like, oh, hell no. And she would use the term gay against him, like speaking down to him. And like she would say things like, you look so gay. Yeah. Like, fuck off. You still look like you're about to be pushed down the stairs, old woman.

Well, it's nothing to get emotional about. Excuse me, you were about to have a nervous breakdown over a free coffee last week.

So Will comes in and he's like, what's wrong, baby? And she's like, they thought I was using my monthly credit to buy all the new dresses. And then I was charging them. And he goes, and you weren't doing that?

What an asshole. This guy's such a fucking asshole. Oh my God. And everyone's in agreement. The whole cast is like, wow, fuck that guy. You know, it's like, this isn't funny. Well, he's like, okay, sorry. This isn't fucking funny. Please stop wiping your eyes with the Stanton. You know, the one good thing you have right now are your looks. Please don't poke your eyes out.

He leaves. He leaves. And she's like, oh my God, I should not have come in today. Okay. Go back to work. And Siobhan goes, so we're good. She's like, fucking Christ. You're fucking kidding me. So she puts on sunglasses and storms off. And Siobhan's just like, okay. So then we just hear Emmy go, God fucking do it!

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and if they think i can steal like what that's what i get for being a good fucking person i was like oh my god yes the the making of shannon bedore part two i know this is wonderful they broke emmy and so um they're all like broke emmy

But it's like, I put them before me. They're like my children. You know what? Like, I was having trouble breathing, so I put a stanchion on one of the girls' faces first.

All right? You want to keep that shit up? I know.

So they're accusing me of using my story credit and like purchasing the dresses and then pocketing the money. And Brad comes in. He goes, well, is that all they expressed? I mean, is that why you're upset? It's like, yeah. And he goes, well, I heard that Friday night, Emmy was talking to NFL players saying that she's single. And they were passing that on too. She's like, what?

Hey, I'm just a messenger here. Don't shoot me. Do you think a lawyer's wife would do that?

okay if an nfl player nba first of all and he asked me did your boyfriend play football or basketball and i said my ex-boyfriend played football what have i done to these girls so then brad's like i don't know and joe joe tells us like if you didn't do this like why the fuck is this such a big deal like acting this manic over something this small something is not right Which I kind of agree.

She's, like, too much. But I don't know if it's Adderall. I don't know if it's the Cocagna. I don't know what's going on. But something else is at play here. Well, I think that she's also, like, definitely getting...

Girl, I'm gay, and the biggest compliment to me would be somebody to say, you look so gay. I would be like, thank you so much. I've been working out. I know.

girl you lost that train is that train has passed okay the train is out of the station and Brad's like you gotta chill she goes I have no chill you know what I never told a man that I was single like who's the background on my phone who's the background on my phone RGB I'm sorry I was on the wrong background today I'm sorry I had a moment of girl power this one so what you're literally showing me right now is your flashlight screen so like until you can show me your wallpaper I don't think I can really look at your phone anymore because I'm getting blinded

Complete fucking asshole. So then Emmy is like putting on her sunglasses. She's like, I can't. It's just like a fucking slap in the face. It's a slap in the face. So then outside, Will's just sitting. No, Will's in there looking at her. But then he just starts texting on his phone and ignoring her. She's like, well, I guess I want to clock out then.

Yeah. So then Molly's slow motion enters a restaurant to the tune of, we're living, we're here.

I can see why you're getting the last scene. I can see somebody sitting right next to Andy soon. And so we see that Molly was moving and Molly's like, yeah, I decided to move in with Siobhan because guess what? I told my dad, I'm getting a new roommate. And then we see flashback clips of Brad and Austin helping with the move.

Yeah. And so this was such a sad thing. And he was telling this to Lake. And so she's like, oh, my God, I love you. And they cry. And he says that losing the connection with his mom made him realize that his friends are his family. And he felt a really amazing bond with TJ until he felt dismissed. And he said that TJ made him feel the way his mom felt, which you guys... That's a bit too much.

And she goes, yeah, thanks for being my go-to date and for not standing me up. Have you ever been stood up? And Siobhan's like, yeah. One time I was leaving my house and then I was like, are you coming? And then he was like, I just sat down to watch the, like, I don't even know the movie, but like, let's say it was The Avengers.

And I was like, okay, well, why don't you pause it and go to Cocktail Club? Because I'm literally right here. So what about you?

uh it's just embarrassing do you mean like sunday she goes oh my god speaking of sunday and then we go flashback i'm gonna lose it and her mascara just running down her face her air campaign mascara just like siobhan is like molly and molly's like it's not funny it's not funny oh my god it's so funny

Care to comment on it? Well, I'm not a fan of Will and I don't like the way he talks about people. He's annoying. And Siobhan's like, yeah. Well, I'm sorry, but that relationship is a ticking time bomb. He was basically watching Avengers while she was sobbing in a corner. And he's been saying the most disgusting things I've ever heard a man say about a girl, let alone his girlfriend.

Like, she's boring. She's anorexic. She's no fun. Her last full meal was fingernails. I mean, just terrible. And then Maddie walks over and was like, is he talking about Emmy? Oh, my God. What a fruitcake. He was just hammered.

Yeah. but does she know? And Siobhan's like, I don't even know if she knows, but like, I feel like she's not going to like be receptive, but I heard it with my own ears. So like, I talk about it with Maddie later and Maddie was told by Michaels, don't say anything. And so me and Maddie were like not getting involved because like it came from management.

And I still think she deserves better. Yeah. Like if your boyfriend's going to your place of work and saying terrible things about you. Yeah.

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Salties. No, I was crying. I was like, that is so sad. I totally get that. And also, I think it's so amazing for somebody that young to have such emotional maturity. I was like, oh, my God. Yeah. He put that together.

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I understand that. I just think that he's saying because of the trauma, because of being dismissed by his mother, that's one of his triggers. So when he feels dismissed by somebody else, it brings him back to that place. OK, I mean, OK, that's how I like. I like that framing. But I was like. But, you know, I'm a big sucker for this stuff because I am a gay who can't talk about his emotion.

Like all this stuff that I'm saying about TJ is totally me projecting, obviously. So I get it. Like I really resonate with the stuff that TJ is talking about and stuff like that. And when you're confronted with somebody who's just so emotionally together and can say exactly what they're feeling and exactly why they're feeling it and they've done all this thinking through, I'm like –

please stop talking because I'm only 50. I don't have time to talk about it. I'm still a child. Like I'm going to need another 30 years before I'm expected to be emotionally mature, sir.

Yeah. And so TJ says, well, I mean, if you look at all the guys I've dated, I mean, none of them look alike. There's also a lot of closeted bisexual people. So that's why I'm fucked up in the head. And I was like, oh my God. And also that, like every line they say, I'm like, oh my God, I can't believe someone's saying this stuff out loud.

So he's like, yeah, I'm 33 and I want to settle down and I don't want to be anybody's secret. And I think that's another element is 33 and 21 is a pretty huge gap. It's a big difference.

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I mean, I think with 21 and 33, it's huge. I dated a guy that was 28 when I was 23, and I swear I wanted to start buying him iron at the store. I was like, poor old person. I mean, I don't have that much longer left with him. That's the way that you look at things when you're young.

I don't know how people get into those relationships because like when you find out, tell me, I'd love to test it.

so then uh back to the salon tj it's like uh he's basically telling michael's like he doesn't know how to express his feelings and he they just have this big moment where they're just so honest and open about kind of their deepest darkest shit and then um he's like well wow i actually get you now you know thank you for sharing that because i got a lot of clarity and then um TJ's like, okay, so.

Well, we can just remain the same. He goes, so what does that mean? He's like, platonic. And he's like, great. Okay. Well, I just wasted that opening up to somebody. That'll happen again in another 30 years.

So now we get another song. Try not to go too far, but don't get too close to me. I was like, wow, they actually found a way to get a vacuum into the instrumentation of this song.

And Matt, I like the owner producer. Who's just sits in, he sits on the couch in his socks and he's like, all he says to things are dope. Yeah. Dope.

He's been like such a great mentor. Yeah, part of music is having timing and hers is really bad.

Well, not anymore.

Because people will be like, you can't joke about that, Ben. Well, too late. I just did it. So Maddie confessional. Maddie's like, meeting DJ James Kennedy last year. Oh, my God. Game change. I want to be in the studio making my own music, and I want to give it 110%. And Grace Lilly comes in.

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Time to clock out. So Grace is like, here's the thing. I'm like a serious singer. So I'm going to need a little work on this, y'all, because this is like new to me. It's like new art. So we're just going to need to work on it. Hi. She's like in her little yoga pants and everything. One of the guys is just like, dope. And so he goes, I want you up on this mic.

She's like, okay, you want me up on it? Motherfuckers.

That was great. One take. Can't believe we landed it. I love that she needs the words. And she has like five notes.

And Maddie's like, you know, so she may not be hitting the notes, but at least she's not wearing sandals like a man. So.

Too much. It's hard. Too much. You're basically like the Sondheimen of our times. So then she's like, yeah, my artistic process in making music is practice. In my shower, in my car. I'm not just going to half-ass it. You should have seen me try to hula hoop and hit these notes in the shower. It got ugly, y'all.

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Like not even singing. So then Maddie's giving her notes. She's like, give it that energy. Like, I don't give a fuck. You know, I'm just going to keep popping it. Cause I'm like Grace Lilly. Like I literally know Jesus and Bob Marley now.

Okay. Just cut out the Jesus parts and I think we nailed it.

You guys really helped our vision come to life. Like, we couldn't have done it without you guys, okay? Dope. So then we go to Brad putting on his shirt on the way into work, you know, as it is. And then Maddie on the street trying to get people in. She's like, popcorn, peanuts, Cracker Jacks, fruitcakes. Just kidding, everybody. Oh, hey, happy Father's Day.

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