Tom Glaser

They get stored in the brain and in a really stuck way.

Right?

That's protective.

That's good.

That's not bad.

That's how we survive.

Later, though, with the help of someone else in the context of a safe, attuned relationship, we can begin to unstuck it.

unpack it.

And eventually they become not exactly like other non-traumatic memories, but much more like non-traumatic memories.

So like, again, just, I'm not saying I'm like the poster child, but you can hear me.

There's a way I can talk about this stuff now that's very different than I could have talked about it 20, 30 years ago, right?

Where I would have been more emotional about it.

I might've been crying.

I might've had a shame attack while I'm talking about it.

I can talk about it now with a I have a little bit of I don't love talking about it, but I can talk about it.

Right.

It's like this happens.

I know it happened.

Yes, I have a lot of thoughts about that.

I'll first say, so yes, there is collective, in addition to intergenerational trauma, which I was referencing earlier when I talked about my own parents, we have collective trauma.