Tom Rath

So I did all that, but then by the time I hit 40 –

I kind of, yeah, and I'm relatively good health right now and active and everything's great.

And I realized, though, that most of what I'd done up to that point, especially with my career, was kind of,

living somebody else's life and living in social expectations that I grew up with.

And it's what a lot of us do.

And so I think I kind of got to that point and realized that the things I'm really passionate about, and that ranges from kind of helping my kids who are my number one priority to figure out all the things that they could do in their life and investing more time and energy and, uh,

Funding and being a part of cancer research, which I do every day and have meetings about every week, and helping people to connect their daily energy with new purposes, especially as the nature of jobs change, it led to a complete realignment of my time and my work and what I invest my time.

resources and my time in over the last few years.

And it's been a lot more fun to kind of be open and honest with myself and with my friends and family about how some of those social expectations have shaped me and how now I kind of get a new do-over to restart and do things because it's what I want to be working on.

You know, the number one thing that I do when I need to take a day from great to awesome is on a day-to-day basis, I go out for a long walk with my wife or one of my kids or a friend or a family member.

And I've found personally that that's kind of like the trifecta

Of what makes a day better and well-being, because I mean, if I've eaten something, if I've had a heavy meal, I mean, it lowers your glucose and gets things going biologically.

And when I'm out on a walk with someone, we always have uplifting, productive conversations that are night and day different from if we're sitting in the kitchen or rushing around the house or whatever it might be.

I think there's just something about being out in nature that makes a big difference there, too.

And then the other thing is I spend almost all of my discretionary financial resources on experiences with the people I care about most, with taking a quick trip over a weekend one-on-one with one of my kids, doing that with my wife, doing that with friends, going out to dinner with family members.

The older I get and the more I realize this stuff, I feel like it's a travesty to waste money on something material when it could be an experience with other people.

Yeah, we've got a lot of information on all the books and some tools and new resources at TomRath.org.

And so that's the best starting point.