Tony Robbins

But it makes life really, really beautiful.

I don't know if self-esteem is the answer.

I don't think it's bad to be hard on yourself, as long as you also celebrate when the victories happen.

But so many people will tell you, I have poor self-esteem because when I was a kid people said this to me and that to me.

It's convenient that we remember those things and not the positive things that also occur, obviously.

I think it's more important to realize that self-esteem is earned.

It's only earned by you with yourself.

You're not going to get self-esteem because everybody praises you.

Someone can tell you your whole life that you're brilliant, you're a genius, you're beautiful, you're handsome, and you not believe it.

Someone can tell you, you know, you're a piece of crap and you're never going to become anything, and there's a part of you that can say, I'll show you, as many people have, and then they develop drive out of it, right?

So it's really, self-esteem comes from doing incredibly difficult things where you know you pushed yourself.

It's not virtue signaling.

It's not telling people about it.

It's what you know inside your soul is true.

And the more you do things that are incredibly difficult, especially things that are meaningful, meaning they're not just about yourself, the higher that esteem would be.

I think the most important thing for self-esteem is to find something you care about more than yourself.

If you find something you care about more than you, you won't be thinking about yourself all the time and all your self-esteem just goes out the window.

The real question is, what do you want?

If you want an extraordinary life, my definition of that is life on your terms.

Some people, it's three beautiful children, a white picket fence.