Tony Robbins

Some people, it's building a multi-billion dollar business.

Somebody else, it's writing poetry.

Instead of looking for somebody else, it's like, okay, what do you really want from your life?

And aligning yourself with moving forward towards what you really want.

If you can do that in a way that also you feel is serving others simultaneously, there's a sense of meaning in life that can't be replaced by self-esteem or praise or compliments or being nice to yourself.

And I don't think it's bad to be tough on yourself.

I'm pretty tough on myself, I'll be honest with you.

Being overly tough on yourself usually comes by making comparisons that don't make sense.

You're comparing to somebody else's life that has a totally different path, a totally different experience.

We all develop in different stages and different things.

We all want different things.

But eventually you wake up and say, it's good to be strong with yourself, but beating yourself up just lowers your energy.

And when your energy gets lower, you produce less.

And you don't have the same level of joy.

You don't have the impact that you want to have, nor do you have the excitement that you really want to have.

So I look at it as something that it's worth earning your own self-esteem, but it's really not the secret.

The secret is find something else you obsess about more than yourself, and you'll have a level of energy that will compel you over the long term.

When I began, I began with a fuel, which was like, I'm going to show them.

It was anger that drove me.

I'm just going to show you type of thing.