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If you just add the words, why do you think Or why do you feel? You see how that re-empts any kind of conflict going forward because this is your subjective opinion. I can't disagree with your subjective opinion. And by asking that, especially in the power dynamic space, it's like inviting you in to give your opinion.
If you just add the words, why do you think Or why do you feel? You see how that re-empts any kind of conflict going forward because this is your subjective opinion. I can't disagree with your subjective opinion. And by asking that, especially in the power dynamic space, it's like inviting you in to give your opinion.
And this is inviting you to step in in a way that's safe because we can't really argue with your subjective experience. So you can say from my point of view, if the boss says, why did the product fail? your response can start just say from my point of view. But a better question as a leader is to say, why do you think, why do you feel? That's her experience. That's her POV. Thank you for your POV.
And this is inviting you to step in in a way that's safe because we can't really argue with your subjective experience. So you can say from my point of view, if the boss says, why did the product fail? your response can start just say from my point of view. But a better question as a leader is to say, why do you think, why do you feel? That's her experience. That's her POV. Thank you for your POV.
What's your POV, Jimmy? And from that, we're inviting different POVs to illuminate all the opportunities for challenge. And then we could discuss from that, what do we think is objectively true or not? But just by adding, why do you think, why do you feel, is already shaping an answer that's less confrontational, less conflict. And there's a lot of little semantic differences
What's your POV, Jimmy? And from that, we're inviting different POVs to illuminate all the opportunities for challenge. And then we could discuss from that, what do we think is objectively true or not? But just by adding, why do you think, why do you feel, is already shaping an answer that's less confrontational, less conflict. And there's a lot of little semantic differences
tools we can use in constructing questions to invite sharing while still keeping it safe, albeit uncomfortable.
tools we can use in constructing questions to invite sharing while still keeping it safe, albeit uncomfortable.