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The third one is how it affects others so that I can support my community, such that I can reinforce my relationship with my wife or be more intimate with my kids so that I can support my parents who are sick, so that I can be a pillar of my community, such that I can tackle the problems in my world that I think are important, whatever it is. You have three blanks and you create 30 questions.

The third one is how it affects others so that I can support my community, such that I can reinforce my relationship with my wife or be more intimate with my kids so that I can support my parents who are sick, so that I can be a pillar of my community, such that I can tackle the problems in my world that I think are important, whatever it is. You have three blanks and you create 30 questions.

You just brainstorm. Then you look at that list and you circle the one that gives you the most energy and inspiration, the one that you're like, that's the one that on this finite time that I have on this planet as a human being, for right now, that's the one I really want to answer. You circle that one. And then the answers are obvious. Let me give a really simple example.

You just brainstorm. Then you look at that list and you circle the one that gives you the most energy and inspiration, the one that you're like, that's the one that on this finite time that I have on this planet as a human being, for right now, that's the one I really want to answer. You circle that one. And then the answers are obvious. Let me give a really simple example.

Should I break up with her? Should I break up with him? Should I break up with this person? I don't know. Yes, no, da, da, da. Okay, stop. Come up with 30 questions. And let's say you circle the one that you really like. Like, what in the next two years can I do so that I feel like I'm growing and challenging myself such that I'm in a position to have a family life with my ideal partner?

Should I break up with her? Should I break up with him? Should I break up with this person? I don't know. Yes, no, da, da, da. Okay, stop. Come up with 30 questions. And let's say you circle the one that you really like. Like, what in the next two years can I do so that I feel like I'm growing and challenging myself such that I'm in a position to have a family life with my ideal partner?

Okay, you circle that one. Now go, does this person fit into that relationship? Question. Yes, absolutely. Like I'm comfortable and I want to be with them. And even though I do think that this is okay or no, not at all. They don't fit the family life. So no, they're out. Change the question. Deepen the question. Time frame, how it makes you feel, how it makes other people feel.

Okay, you circle that one. Now go, does this person fit into that relationship? Question. Yes, absolutely. Like I'm comfortable and I want to be with them. And even though I do think that this is okay or no, not at all. They don't fit the family life. So no, they're out. Change the question. Deepen the question. Time frame, how it makes you feel, how it makes other people feel.

And then the answer becomes obvious. And the reason that we have a time frame is because life is finite. It doesn't go on forever. You change. Things change. Where do we want to live? Well, we want to live without kids or single. It's different with kids. It's different when the kids are 15. It's different when the kids are out of the house. It's different when you're now 70 or when you're not.

And then the answer becomes obvious. And the reason that we have a time frame is because life is finite. It doesn't go on forever. You change. Things change. Where do we want to live? Well, we want to live without kids or single. It's different with kids. It's different when the kids are 15. It's different when the kids are out of the house. It's different when you're now 70 or when you're not.

So it changes. So give it a timeframe. How it makes you feel is important because it gives you energy. And how it makes other people feel is because we are humans. We're in relationship. We're in community. If it's just about me, it's going to get A, narcissistic, and B, it's going to burn out. the energy is not resilient because it's not being recycled through other people.

So it changes. So give it a timeframe. How it makes you feel is important because it gives you energy. And how it makes other people feel is because we are humans. We're in relationship. We're in community. If it's just about me, it's going to get A, narcissistic, and B, it's going to burn out. the energy is not resilient because it's not being recycled through other people.

It's a value to other people. So you do that, circle it. That's one huge tool. And then there's two others. One is question loops. So the most famous question loop is why? Da, da, da, da. Why? Why? And you just keep asking the question, why? Should I quit my job? Why? Well, because I'm not feeling so much about it and I'm not sure why.

It's a value to other people. So you do that, circle it. That's one huge tool. And then there's two others. One is question loops. So the most famous question loop is why? Da, da, da, da. Why? Why? And you just keep asking the question, why? Should I quit my job? Why? Well, because I'm not feeling so much about it and I'm not sure why.

Because, you know, I feel like I'm wasting my time, albeit it's supportive. Why? And you just keep saying, why, why, why, why? There's other question loops that you can ask, right? Like, why? Then you go, well, because this. What would it give you? What would give me this? What if you already have it? Well, if I have it, I have it here. Why? What would it give you? What if I already have it? Why?

Because, you know, I feel like I'm wasting my time, albeit it's supportive. Why? And you just keep saying, why, why, why, why? There's other question loops that you can ask, right? Like, why? Then you go, well, because this. What would it give you? What would give me this? What if you already have it? Well, if I have it, I have it here. Why? What would it give you? What if I already have it? Why?

And you loop that and see where you go. And then the last one, which is a plug for myself, is one of my additions is these boxes of 200 questions that we sell in all kind of relations. One of them is a self-deck. Questions to ask yourself. So you list out the question, the big question you're asking, the enigma, the challenge you're facing.

And you loop that and see where you go. And then the last one, which is a plug for myself, is one of my additions is these boxes of 200 questions that we sell in all kind of relations. One of them is a self-deck. Questions to ask yourself. So you list out the question, the big question you're asking, the enigma, the challenge you're facing.

Then you randomly pull out questions that I ask and you answer those in relation to the big question. And that helps elucidate the feelings you're having, the options you're having, the things you're concerned about. And that's a great way. You're shooting arrows of questions at the main enigma that you have, but a variety of them that are different and unique.

Then you randomly pull out questions that I ask and you answer those in relation to the big question. And that helps elucidate the feelings you're having, the options you're having, the things you're concerned about. And that's a great way. You're shooting arrows of questions at the main enigma that you have, but a variety of them that are different and unique.