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And that helps you pull out the yarn, the string to pull apart the ball of yarn that's all confused.

And that helps you pull out the yarn, the string to pull apart the ball of yarn that's all confused.

For me, when I construct a question, my team, when we construct questions, we usually have five aspects that we try to place on the question. At least five or most of them. The first one is don't make them binary. We discussed that. And you're saying, well, why are we constructed?

For me, when I construct a question, my team, when we construct questions, we usually have five aspects that we try to place on the question. At least five or most of them. The first one is don't make them binary. We discussed that. And you're saying, well, why are we constructed?

Sometimes I'm talking about constructing questions where you're exploring your relationship, where you're stretching it, where you're learning something new. I'm not talking about a conversation where you're into a space where you're making definitive decisions. Yes, no, we do this or that.

Sometimes I'm talking about constructing questions where you're exploring your relationship, where you're stretching it, where you're learning something new. I'm not talking about a conversation where you're into a space where you're making definitive decisions. Yes, no, we do this or that.

I'm talking about the questions that elucidate your connection with other people, that give you a sense of deepening your relationship to them. That makes it more resilient, more fulfilled. Those conversations. A, have a question that's not binary because it ends. Yes, no, left, right, done. Two, have questions that are empowering. We talked about the dog chasing the stick.

I'm talking about the questions that elucidate your connection with other people, that give you a sense of deepening your relationship to them. That makes it more resilient, more fulfilled. Those conversations. A, have a question that's not binary because it ends. Yes, no, left, right, done. Two, have questions that are empowering. We talked about the dog chasing the stick.

I mean, don't say, why do we fight so much? Because they're going to tell you, well, we fight so much. Instead, you can make it constructive, empowering, saying, what is our biggest challenge relationship right now? And what do you think it is teaching us? Because now we're going to, okay, well, it's teaching us. Now it's more empowering.

I mean, don't say, why do we fight so much? Because they're going to tell you, well, we fight so much. Instead, you can make it constructive, empowering, saying, what is our biggest challenge relationship right now? And what do you think it is teaching us? Because now we're going to, okay, well, it's teaching us. Now it's more empowering.

We're going to get the answer, but we're going to shift it into something that's empowering. What is it teaching us? Or how is it making us better? How does conflict make us better? Third one is make sure that it's a connective question. And what do I mean by connective? Is that it acknowledges the people in the conversation. So if I ask you, Ilana, what scares you the most?

We're going to get the answer, but we're going to shift it into something that's empowering. What is it teaching us? Or how is it making us better? How does conflict make us better? Third one is make sure that it's a connective question. And what do I mean by connective? Is that it acknowledges the people in the conversation. So if I ask you, Ilana, what scares you the most?

And your best friend comes down the street and says, Ilana, what scares you the most? And a stranger comes up and says, what scares you the most? You're going to answer to those three people, your best friend, me, and a stranger, the same thing, snakes, or apocalypse, or whatever, bank, I don't know, whatever it is. That scares me the most. It's the same answer regardless of who's asking it.

And your best friend comes down the street and says, Ilana, what scares you the most? And a stranger comes up and says, what scares you the most? You're going to answer to those three people, your best friend, me, and a stranger, the same thing, snakes, or apocalypse, or whatever, bank, I don't know, whatever it is. That scares me the most. It's the same answer regardless of who's asking it.

What a missed opportunity. Ask a connective question that acknowledges the people in conversation. So I would change it to, Ilana, what do you think scares us both the most? And that immediately requires you to acknowledge me and our relationship and what you know of me.

What a missed opportunity. Ask a connective question that acknowledges the people in conversation. So I would change it to, Ilana, what do you think scares us both the most? And that immediately requires you to acknowledge me and our relationship and what you know of me.

Thereby, you would not answer it the same if I asked you that, and if your best friend down the street asked you that, and if a stranger asked you that. Because it acknowledges the unique makeup of our connection. So make the question connective. Make sure that it acknowledges the two of us are in conversation. Yeah, the connection.

Thereby, you would not answer it the same if I asked you that, and if your best friend down the street asked you that, and if a stranger asked you that. Because it acknowledges the unique makeup of our connection. So make the question connective. Make sure that it acknowledges the two of us are in conversation. Yeah, the connection.

In a business setting, what is the mission of the company? Well, you'll answer that question. Okay. Instead, make it connective. How do you think we both see the mission the same and different? And whoever you're speaking to, you're going to answer that differently because it's a different person.

In a business setting, what is the mission of the company? Well, you'll answer that question. Okay. Instead, make it connective. How do you think we both see the mission the same and different? And whoever you're speaking to, you're going to answer that differently because it's a different person.