Tori Dunlap

She's a stay-at-home mom.

And I am so thankful for that because...

My mom was my chauffeur for t-ball practice and for piano lessons and also was there always to, you know, support me in that.

But they have a very equitable relationship.

Like my dad brings home the bacon.

My mom does all of the work to fry that bacon.

And they have worked that out together.

My mom has a spousal IRA, which means that my dad is contributing to her retirement account.

Like one of my most controversial videos ever is I said, if you're a stay-at-home mom, your husband should be paying you a salary.

And salary is a word I use to purposely be a little spicy, but like you need to have some sort of income coming in from the compensated partner.

Spousal IRAs exist for that kind of reason.

The issue I have with trad wives is that they are giving you a version of life that feels very idyllic.

I'm going to waltz through my wildflowers and I'm going to milk my cows and I'm going to bring the milk in and I'm going to make, I don't know, all of these things from scratch.

And like, the reason it feels so idyllic is we're all really burned out as women.

We're all really tired.

And I don't think we have a lot of people that like take care of us.

Because even though I'm a good independent feminist, like, I like being taken care of sometimes.

Of course.

So I see the temptation of that.

But the interesting thing about trad wives becoming so popular is that you are telling me— Sorry.