Ty Tashiro

Fewer, you know, the way I like to phrase that is I say, make the list of your dreams. So you could make your 20 trait list, let's say, Um, but what nobody does, or I haven't met anybody yet. What nobody does is rank order those traits then. So what's number one, what's number two, what's number three, so on and so forth. And then let's, the top three traits that you want to partner.

Fewer, you know, the way I like to phrase that is I say, make the list of your dreams. So you could make your 20 trait list, let's say, Um, but what nobody does, or I haven't met anybody yet. What nobody does is rank order those traits then. So what's number one, what's number two, what's number three, so on and so forth. And then let's, the top three traits that you want to partner.

I tell people, Write that out, print it out, and put it on your mirror or put it on the back of your phone or put it someplace where you'll just always see it because you need to have that really salient in your mind that these are the things you're actually looking for.

I tell people, Write that out, print it out, and put it on your mirror or put it on the back of your phone or put it someplace where you'll just always see it because you need to have that really salient in your mind that these are the things you're actually looking for.

I tell people, Write that out, print it out, and put it on your mirror or put it on the back of your phone or put it someplace where you'll just always see it because you need to have that really salient in your mind that these are the things you're actually looking for.

And one of the beautiful things, though, about psychology is if you take that time to just do that simple task and you remind yourself fairly consistently, right, about what you want, your selective attention will now direct you towards those things that you want without you even having to think about it. And it'll direct your behaviors towards choosing people like that.

And one of the beautiful things, though, about psychology is if you take that time to just do that simple task and you remind yourself fairly consistently, right, about what you want, your selective attention will now direct you towards those things that you want without you even having to think about it. And it'll direct your behaviors towards choosing people like that.

And one of the beautiful things, though, about psychology is if you take that time to just do that simple task and you remind yourself fairly consistently, right, about what you want, your selective attention will now direct you towards those things that you want without you even having to think about it. And it'll direct your behaviors towards choosing people like that.

And so it's this thing that doesn't take that long but has a really high return on investment for that time. So yeah, I tell people, imagine you have a fairy godmother. Fairy godmother can give you three wishes for your ideal partner. What are those things that you want? And so one of the things I did in this, I wrote a book about this.

And so it's this thing that doesn't take that long but has a really high return on investment for that time. So yeah, I tell people, imagine you have a fairy godmother. Fairy godmother can give you three wishes for your ideal partner. What are those things that you want? And so one of the things I did in this, I wrote a book about this.

And so it's this thing that doesn't take that long but has a really high return on investment for that time. So yeah, I tell people, imagine you have a fairy godmother. Fairy godmother can give you three wishes for your ideal partner. What are those things that you want? And so one of the things I did in this, I wrote a book about this.

And so I kind of started out the first third talking about, hey, you get three wishes and here's why. In the middle part, I was interested in, so how do people usually spend their three wishes? Because in a good fairy tale, people always squander their wishes on things that aren't good.

And so I kind of started out the first third talking about, hey, you get three wishes and here's why. In the middle part, I was interested in, so how do people usually spend their three wishes? Because in a good fairy tale, people always squander their wishes on things that aren't good.

And so I kind of started out the first third talking about, hey, you get three wishes and here's why. In the middle part, I was interested in, so how do people usually spend their three wishes? Because in a good fairy tale, people always squander their wishes on things that aren't good.

And now we have these really great studies where we can actually watch what people do in things like speed dating or with online dating. And let me explain why this is important. So if you ask people, if a researcher asks a bunch of people, hey, what do you want in your ideal partner? They'll say what they think is socially desirable. So they'll say, I want someone who's kind.

And now we have these really great studies where we can actually watch what people do in things like speed dating or with online dating. And let me explain why this is important. So if you ask people, if a researcher asks a bunch of people, hey, what do you want in your ideal partner? They'll say what they think is socially desirable. So they'll say, I want someone who's kind.

And now we have these really great studies where we can actually watch what people do in things like speed dating or with online dating. And let me explain why this is important. So if you ask people, if a researcher asks a bunch of people, hey, what do you want in your ideal partner? They'll say what they think is socially desirable. So they'll say, I want someone who's kind.

I want someone with good character. You know, all these things. Now, if you watch what people actually do in speed dating or online dating, those aren't the things at the top of their list. You know, those aren't their three wishes. Two of those three wishes will go to looks and the money. So for men, it's looks first. Socioeconomic status second. For women, socioeconomic status first. No.

I want someone with good character. You know, all these things. Now, if you watch what people actually do in speed dating or online dating, those aren't the things at the top of their list. You know, those aren't their three wishes. Two of those three wishes will go to looks and the money. So for men, it's looks first. Socioeconomic status second. For women, socioeconomic status first. No.

I want someone with good character. You know, all these things. Now, if you watch what people actually do in speed dating or online dating, those aren't the things at the top of their list. You know, those aren't their three wishes. Two of those three wishes will go to looks and the money. So for men, it's looks first. Socioeconomic status second. For women, socioeconomic status first. No.