Ty Tashiro

But sometimes for whatever reason, I don't place emphasis on those when I'm choosing partners. So yeah, you want to over-select from these pools of people who have these qualities that you know are really good for you that you don't naturally gravitate towards. By the same token, yeah, let's avoid people who you know are bad for you, but for whatever reason.

But sometimes for whatever reason, I don't place emphasis on those when I'm choosing partners. So yeah, you want to over-select from these pools of people who have these qualities that you know are really good for you that you don't naturally gravitate towards. By the same token, yeah, let's avoid people who you know are bad for you, but for whatever reason.

You just have a weak spot for those folks.

You just have a weak spot for those folks.

You just have a weak spot for those folks.

Yeah, there's some universality about that, actually. So like David Buss, for example, has done some really nice cross-cultural studies where he looks like, what do people want in a mate? And there's some commonality there for long-term partners. You know, we want someone with... who's kind. You know, we want someone who's loyal and can be committed, all these things that would make sense.

Yeah, there's some universality about that, actually. So like David Buss, for example, has done some really nice cross-cultural studies where he looks like, what do people want in a mate? And there's some commonality there for long-term partners. You know, we want someone with... who's kind. You know, we want someone who's loyal and can be committed, all these things that would make sense.

Yeah, there's some universality about that, actually. So like David Buss, for example, has done some really nice cross-cultural studies where he looks like, what do people want in a mate? And there's some commonality there for long-term partners. You know, we want someone with... who's kind. You know, we want someone who's loyal and can be committed, all these things that would make sense.

With short-term mating partners, we tend to not prioritize those things. We go for the hotness or the excitement. And that's fine as well, if that's your goal and you're clear about it. I think where we get tripped up sometimes is we want something that's long-term and But we get tempted by the things that are good for the short term, right? So we go for the hot, exciting person.

With short-term mating partners, we tend to not prioritize those things. We go for the hotness or the excitement. And that's fine as well, if that's your goal and you're clear about it. I think where we get tripped up sometimes is we want something that's long-term and But we get tempted by the things that are good for the short term, right? So we go for the hot, exciting person.

With short-term mating partners, we tend to not prioritize those things. We go for the hotness or the excitement. And that's fine as well, if that's your goal and you're clear about it. I think where we get tripped up sometimes is we want something that's long-term and But we get tempted by the things that are good for the short term, right? So we go for the hot, exciting person.

And as we've talked about, it's really easy now, if you fall into passionate love with this person, to all of a sudden be in a rut. And next thing you know, you're spending a ton of time together. You've moved in together. You got a dog together. And it's like two years down the road and you're like, gosh, I don't think I'm actually happy with this person.

And as we've talked about, it's really easy now, if you fall into passionate love with this person, to all of a sudden be in a rut. And next thing you know, you're spending a ton of time together. You've moved in together. You got a dog together. And it's like two years down the road and you're like, gosh, I don't think I'm actually happy with this person.

And as we've talked about, it's really easy now, if you fall into passionate love with this person, to all of a sudden be in a rut. And next thing you know, you're spending a ton of time together. You've moved in together. You got a dog together. And it's like two years down the road and you're like, gosh, I don't think I'm actually happy with this person.

And it seems like a blur that you got to that point. But of course, there were all kinds of decisions that led you up to that situation.

And it seems like a blur that you got to that point. But of course, there were all kinds of decisions that led you up to that situation.

And it seems like a blur that you got to that point. But of course, there were all kinds of decisions that led you up to that situation.

Sure. I think a ton, you know, end up that way. So there's the okay, we just thought each other were hot. Then we kind of got together for that reason. Next thing we know, we're married with kids. I think that happens. But you bring up a really good point there, which is this broader societal context where people think, well, there's just certain things I'm supposed to do in life by a certain age.

Sure. I think a ton, you know, end up that way. So there's the okay, we just thought each other were hot. Then we kind of got together for that reason. Next thing we know, we're married with kids. I think that happens. But you bring up a really good point there, which is this broader societal context where people think, well, there's just certain things I'm supposed to do in life by a certain age.

Sure. I think a ton, you know, end up that way. So there's the okay, we just thought each other were hot. Then we kind of got together for that reason. Next thing we know, we're married with kids. I think that happens. But you bring up a really good point there, which is this broader societal context where people think, well, there's just certain things I'm supposed to do in life by a certain age.