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So I've heard about dayuse.com, which is like regular hotels and you can rent them during the day or Reserve them during the day and not overnight. But even those are often more than $100, even just for the day. And besides that, there aren't very many in my area. So my question is, how do I find a cheap and safe hotel that isn't going to bust my budget?

So I've heard about dayuse.com, which is like regular hotels and you can rent them during the day or Reserve them during the day and not overnight. But even those are often more than $100, even just for the day. And besides that, there aren't very many in my area. So my question is, how do I find a cheap and safe hotel that isn't going to bust my budget?

Hi, Dan. I am a 36-year-old queer femme type living in New York City. During the dark days of the pandemic in 2020, I met this cop on Grindr. From the beginning, he was very cagey with his information, didn't even tell me he was a cop. There was a lot of stuff that came to light, but he wasn't fully honest, which you don't need to be.

Hi, Dan. I am a 36-year-old queer femme type living in New York City. During the dark days of the pandemic in 2020, I met this cop on Grindr. From the beginning, he was very cagey with his information, didn't even tell me he was a cop. There was a lot of stuff that came to light, but he wasn't fully honest, which you don't need to be.

But then over time, our relationship developed into lovers, and I wouldn't say like soft boyfriends to the extent that maybe we're only seeing each other once or twice a month. But we're pretty much texting every day and checking in on each other. In the meantime, I'm staying single. And his story is that he lives way out in Suffolk. He comes to the city for work. And that he is closeted.

But then over time, our relationship developed into lovers, and I wouldn't say like soft boyfriends to the extent that maybe we're only seeing each other once or twice a month. But we're pretty much texting every day and checking in on each other. In the meantime, I'm staying single. And his story is that he lives way out in Suffolk. He comes to the city for work. And that he is closeted.

And he wants to come out someday, but not today. And me as a single person, I'm like, I don't care. Live your life. I'm still living mine. And we love each other, but... We're not committed in any way, shape or form. Okay. So then time passes.

And he wants to come out someday, but not today. And me as a single person, I'm like, I don't care. Live your life. I'm still living mine. And we love each other, but... We're not committed in any way, shape or form. Okay. So then time passes.

It's now been four years that we've been like this, like a little bit on and off as we get to tips throughout the years, but like we're there for each other. And this is a very long-term relationship. Now, we got into a fight a couple weeks ago just before the election. As you might have guessed, a cop living in Suffolk County is... I don't think he calls himself Republican, but that's what he is.

It's now been four years that we've been like this, like a little bit on and off as we get to tips throughout the years, but like we're there for each other. And this is a very long-term relationship. Now, we got into a fight a couple weeks ago just before the election. As you might have guessed, a cop living in Suffolk County is... I don't think he calls himself Republican, but that's what he is.

And the moon was already tense. He didn't show up for me on a bunch of occasions in different ways, so... we kind of weren't talking and it kind of felt like, okay, maybe this is kind of the end for us. This isn't a good moment for us. And in that moment of radio silence, I went and did the tiniest bit of internet sleuthing and discovered that he's not closeted.

And the moon was already tense. He didn't show up for me on a bunch of occasions in different ways, so... we kind of weren't talking and it kind of felt like, okay, maybe this is kind of the end for us. This isn't a good moment for us. And in that moment of radio silence, I went and did the tiniest bit of internet sleuthing and discovered that he's not closeted.

Actually, he lives with a live-in boyfriend or partner, another gay dude. And then after discovering that, it's like so much made sense and all these pieces fell into place. And I'm like, of course, it's been so obvious this whole time. So then I confronted him about it.

Actually, he lives with a live-in boyfriend or partner, another gay dude. And then after discovering that, it's like so much made sense and all these pieces fell into place. And I'm like, of course, it's been so obvious this whole time. So then I confronted him about it.

without revealing my full hand, trying to give him a lot of opportunities to kind of explain himself, and he denied, denied, denied. And now I keep pressing him, and he's just not giving me any info. So I feel a bunch of different ways, which is we were kind of reaching the end of the road anyway, but now I feel so unfulfilled and...

without revealing my full hand, trying to give him a lot of opportunities to kind of explain himself, and he denied, denied, denied. And now I keep pressing him, and he's just not giving me any info. So I feel a bunch of different ways, which is we were kind of reaching the end of the road anyway, but now I feel so unfulfilled and...

Like obviously really like tricked and shocked, but also like a little bit angry, a little bit sad. And not for nothing, but I kind of feel like he owes me an explanation. But I don't want to press him and have him go totally cold and not give me any information. And I also don't want to like show up in his doorstep and destroy his life.

Like obviously really like tricked and shocked, but also like a little bit angry, a little bit sad. And not for nothing, but I kind of feel like he owes me an explanation. But I don't want to press him and have him go totally cold and not give me any information. And I also don't want to like show up in his doorstep and destroy his life.

And I feel like you're going to tell me just get over it and move on. And why did you let it go on for this long? But kind of here we are. And I don't think that this erases everything that's happened over the past four years. Definitely doesn't erase the feelings that we've had for each other. And I think that I'm owed an explanation. And I want to get it without blowing up a bomb in his life.

And I feel like you're going to tell me just get over it and move on. And why did you let it go on for this long? But kind of here we are. And I don't think that this erases everything that's happened over the past four years. Definitely doesn't erase the feelings that we've had for each other. And I think that I'm owed an explanation. And I want to get it without blowing up a bomb in his life.