Unnamed Caller 3

Hi, Dan. I am straight, cisgender lady. Been in a marriage for 14 years. I kind of already know what Dan will tell me. Which is you and your words, but... So scary for... great men in this area to hear words, I think, for them. Okay, so this is a deal, sexless marriage. I don't think I even realized how sexless it was, but six and a half years now, no sex.

Hi, Dan. I am straight, cisgender lady. Been in a marriage for 14 years. I kind of already know what Dan will tell me. Which is you and your words, but... So scary for... great men in this area to hear words, I think, for them. Okay, so this is a deal, sexless marriage. I don't think I even realized how sexless it was, but six and a half years now, no sex.

And so I asked my spouse for permission to open up the marriage. Last September, he said yes, but with the stipulation that It's a test and it's out of town and I get tested after. So that's fine and everything. By the way, we have a beautiful six-year-old child. And that's a big reason why I'm in this situation of considering like the don't ask, don't tell, I guess, sort of.

And so I asked my spouse for permission to open up the marriage. Last September, he said yes, but with the stipulation that It's a test and it's out of town and I get tested after. So that's fine and everything. By the way, we have a beautiful six-year-old child. And that's a big reason why I'm in this situation of considering like the don't ask, don't tell, I guess, sort of.

So I had had a crush on someone for a while. And so I consummated that. And then we are kind of doing, I guess you would say a situationship for the past four or five months. And then there was like one time and then right after I got permission and then a four or five month break, but lots of texting.

So I had had a crush on someone for a while. And so I consummated that. And then we are kind of doing, I guess you would say a situationship for the past four or five months. And then there was like one time and then right after I got permission and then a four or five month break, but lots of texting.

So the issue is for me, I have a very high sex drive and my spouse has a low one and we've done couples therapy before. So I don't know. Should I just keep sneaking around? I'm in a very, very small town, Dan. So I don't want to get caught. And I'm also wracked with guilt because I am in anxiety ridden.

So the issue is for me, I have a very high sex drive and my spouse has a low one and we've done couples therapy before. So I don't know. Should I just keep sneaking around? I'm in a very, very small town, Dan. So I don't want to get caught. And I'm also wracked with guilt because I am in anxiety ridden.

Are there any updates? Yeah, so we had the first talk and then he brought it up a week later. And then also my side guy just like flaked out on me totally. So that's depressing. So we're sort of friends, but I think he's breadcrumbing me basically. I don't know what went wrong there.

Are there any updates? Yeah, so we had the first talk and then he brought it up a week later. And then also my side guy just like flaked out on me totally. So that's depressing. So we're sort of friends, but I think he's breadcrumbing me basically. I don't know what went wrong there.

Although I will technically say I did ask to be if I can have a fling with someone last year. And he said, yes, it's no problem. Just make sure it's out of town. Because we live in a small town. And yeah, if you want to have a fling for a few days with someone, that's, I don't have a problem with that. And then we didn't set the parameters.

Although I will technically say I did ask to be if I can have a fling with someone last year. And he said, yes, it's no problem. Just make sure it's out of town. Because we live in a small town. And yeah, if you want to have a fling for a few days with someone, that's, I don't have a problem with that. And then we didn't set the parameters.

So like, he didn't ask for communication or check in with me about that. And I am an overshare, as you can tell, because I can tell you're trying to say something and I'm cutting you off.

So like, he didn't ask for communication or check in with me about that. And I am an overshare, as you can tell, because I can tell you're trying to say something and I'm cutting you off.

Yeah, I think it's the latter. Just, you know, a concern for my health. Loving or not loving, I'm not sure which. But yeah, it's completely sexless. So we have cuddled in the past six years, but like no making out, no nothing.

Yeah, I think it's the latter. Just, you know, a concern for my health. Loving or not loving, I'm not sure which. But yeah, it's completely sexless. So we have cuddled in the past six years, but like no making out, no nothing.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, I'm going to throw a wrench in your plan. So, two weeks ago, like, after SciGuy just...

Well, I'm going to throw a wrench in your plan. So, two weeks ago, like, after SciGuy just...