Valerie

All girls are born in April. So I was very busy in July.

I worked in the dental field before being a stay-at-home mom. I was a dental assistant. My favorite is working in ortho, orthodontics. What made you start TikTok?

Well, yes. I originally did not have a TikTok account. I let Morgan have a TikTok account at a younger age, and I would just... Monitor hers. But then I started to get into it by watching. And then she's like, mom, can you please start your own account? Because I am tired of watching the people that you are following. Oh, because it was on her FYP. Yeah. So I finally created my own.

And then, you know, I feel like in the very beginning, you're trying to grow followers and you don't know what your niche is going to be. So you're doing like trends and doing other things.

Recording myself in the kitchen and just trying to cook a meal like I typically do off of Pinterest or something. Yeah, trying. So just trying.

And I think that was probably...

I had a couple other videos of Austin running to the wall off of a roller coaster thing. You know, it would get views, but most of my views came from being a mom in the kitchen, the chaos. And people like to see the realness. And I didn't edit out me fussing at my kids or me messing up a meal or... Yeah, I didn't edit out any of the chaos. People just like the realness. So I just kept that going.

Not just TikTok. People are like, oh, if TikTok shuts down, what are they going to do?

I've been trying. I can't post 150 snaps a day.

I mean, you've got like 600,000. Well, you need $50,000 to monetize.

A last chance.

I did see that.

You have to find yourself.

And you will see who's real and who's not. Because there's people that I follow that... You can clearly see that.

Oh, I didn't know where this conversation was going. Yeah.

And it's because, I mean, I appreciate companies reaching out to work with you and you feel like, oh. But I feel like they also take advantage. Yeah, and I don't want to... I feel like a little spoiled brat, like, oh, no, that's not enough.

But now, being into it, I notice that they want to lowball you first. Oh, for sure. I get it. I get it. They want to see what they can get out of you, but you've got to know your worth and know that you're worth more than that and that you deserve more. Yeah. Yep.

Mississippi Queen has been by far

And she'll be like, I've never seen that person in my life.

I sent somebody to Jasmine. I'm like, oh, you watch her? And I'm like, well, first off, if you do not even know who she is, our friendship is done. Okay, well, don't send anybody to me because I don't know anybody. And I think the main one was like Alex Earl. I'm like, everybody knows Alex Earl. She's like, I've never seen her before.

And I think we realized that when we went to Vegas last year.

Who are these people?

Yeah. Which is insane.

Yeah. It just shows you how big.

I think everybody would. And put it on all social medias because I hated that I did not start Facebook, YouTube, and all that when I first started TikTok.

It made it blow up. Because everybody was on there. I mean, YouTube's been around forever. That's all we had to do, but...

The fact that you remember that. I know.

I remember going live for like the first time I had three people in my life. Oh, for sure.

You're talking to yourself. I am like, this is awkward as hell. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

That's the biggest thing. It's just crazy how you grow. But I remember how awkward it was when I see three people in there. Yeah. And I'm like, all right, I'm going to exit out now.

And I hear a lot of people say that they don't know what to do on live or they don't really have a lot of interaction live. I find that I have more interaction on live when I am doing something. If I'm cooking or whatever. But if you're just sitting there, you don't really have a lot of people watching. They just... I guess, like, your niche is what they want to see live.

My favorite is actually folding laundry online because it makes the...

Right? Yeah.

The most I made was at your house for Christmas. Unless they're like these bigger creators who have like a lot of subscribers. The nut butter. I think the most I've made was like a hundred bucks on live.

Yeah.

It is crazy how it worked out. Yeah.

And how I know that it's real is because if you see any other – TikTok groups, it's nothing but making content.

That's how I know that our friendship is real. Is genuine.

Mark and Eric are very similar. They are.

Thank you.

Me and Jazz had our first lemon drop together.

Thank you. Okay. Okay.

113 Restaurant.

We repped for the same boutique.

We no longer speak to her.

That was the first time that I met.

Yeah. There was four of us there.

Yeah. The other one. That's it? Mm-hmm.

No, at Josh's work Christmas party.

If I had to describe Jasmine in one word, it will be shots.

Shots.

No. Only about what we were going to wear to our photo shoot.

I'm like, if we're going to wear blazers, they're going to have to be the exact same blazer. Yeah.

There was one more. It was Moms Unfiltered. Moms on Court. On Court. Moms on Court, but that was taken.

I didn't know you did pageants. I think I just found that out when we were doing our photo shoot.

How long did you do that for and to what age?

Really? Wow.

To get them. My aunt did that for a Christmas gift one year of all of our VHS tapes from when we were little. And we got a whole little album of CDs. Everyone used to have her video camera.

Aww. That's so sweet.

They are definitely.

It's not just for moms. It's for everybody. It's F-O-U-R.

Yes. I was just saying that the other day. I said, I'm looking at Charlie and I said she looks just like her daddy. Yeah. Whitley looks just like you. Yeah. But Charlie acts like you do.

Go ahead and add Easter too.

It's like when you talk to people or watch their videos for so long. You feel like you know them, yeah. B-girls, when I first met them, it did not feel like I just met them because I've watched them for so long. The first time we met them was the girl strip, right?

I'm only going to the Deep Eddy's warehouse facility.

We are.

I'm B. Roger 17. Why haven't you answered my email?

Yeah, she done messaged me three times for the pineapple, but y'all said the pineapple doesn't taste good.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Tell her to spray some. She knows I'm busy today. Yeah. Spray some. I gave her Motrin before. What is it called? Let me see if my mother-in-law can do this.

Yeah.

Guys, this is Valerie. V. Rogers 17. I am Valerie. I am married almost 10 years this year. And I need you to book my 10-year trip because October is my 10-year anniversary. I have four kids. I met my husband when Morgan was four. So a lot of people want to know if Mark is Morgan's dad. He is not. So I have a 16 year old, a 10 year old, an eight year old and a four year old.

No, you don't. It's stimulation. It's totally different. Yeah. That's how it was for me. It's totally different.

Even just sitting in my car. Yes. I will go sit. Yeah. I will go sit in the parking lot somewhere. Yes.

Also, you need some time with your husband because I learn quickly. Just from our last two Vegas and Nashville trips, that me and my husband don't fight when the kids are not around. No, literally. A lot of it is rooted around the kids. As soon as we landed back into Louisiana off that airplane, we're fighting. Well, bickering, not fighting. We don't want to fight. No, yeah. Yeah.

But we also don't put everything on social media.

just with the kids and stuff like that. But when the kids are not around, it's back to when y'all were dating. Yeah. So finding your relationship, your marriage again is nice.

I think that's huge. And I'm very grateful. I've gone across some people that don't have husbands that don't pick up a finger at home. They think they go to work and don't. I feel so sorry.

Nobody is.

Nobody's perfect. No, and I feel bad when I get a little too loud.

They're waiting for you to yell before they start listening. And they're like, okay, I'll do it. Mason waits for you to get up and the hand comes up. Then he'll do what he needs to do.

oh my gosh that kid will make you chase her yeah like ava's soft hearted she'll cry that's how l is you literally just look at her the right way she's like i'm not your friend no more you've been my friend all day i'm not your friend no more now oh my god dad is my favorite yes uh when we say no i'm like go see him then yeah go go bother dad yeah

Fine hobbies.

If there's one way that Kelsey doesn't fit in, is that bitch will wake up at 3 o'clock in the morning to go work out. That ain't me. I will. Y'all, I will. She's good with that. I enjoy that. I can't.

Days are long, but years are short.

That'll be interesting. Oh, yeah. Alive.

Patreon members.

I felt taken advantage of when we invited her. We agreed to... Made her feel included.

They paid too because we did reimburse them for a portion of this.

Never got a thank you. And that really did upset me.

I would say that she... That's not her. Her personality has changed.

Her relationship has changed. That would... She's not the same one.

And I've known her the longest.

I met her through our daughters went to school together. And that's how I met her. And always looked at her as a little sister. Yeah. Took two years to figure out her true colors. But, you know, some people...

And even if they... even them knowing the truth, they still don't have something to say.

Because no matter what, you're not going to please everybody.

They're not going to stop asking.

Well, hold on. I was trying to... I mean, we're still like... Cordial. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

That's been the main thing that you have said.

It's a job.

Just decided that it wasn't. I was trying to find the name.

Or when she's cooking, I see her little no-tease smile popping up.

Yeah. But I couldn't live in a camper.

I like, I commend you because I can't even, I can't even go 25 minutes down the road from my house to the kid's school because we're in a car and all, Oh yeah, in that small area on top of each other. The car don't get y'all.

The car time don't get y'all because I feel... My anxiety's through the roof by the time I get home. I am in a good mood when I pick them up and when they get in the car start fighting and I'm just like... Oh yeah. Yeah.

She's like, dang, mama got friends and she just leaves me. Yeah.

She needed something. I would be there for her.

Um, I met Mark at a Mexican restaurant. Um, Morgan was four years old at the time and me and old friend were out and she was with her daughter. And then, um, We have somewhat of a connection with her daughter and my husband's family. And then we went and ate dinner with them. And I was like, who's that across the table? Who is he? Who is he? And she's like, that is Melanie's brother.

Y'all are just good like that though.

And I was like, oh, is he single? And she picks up her phone and she texts Melanie and she said... Valerie is interested and she leans over to Mark and he said, I'm down. So we were going to a birth. Actually, we're going to be at the birthday party the next day together. Didn't even notice it. And then I went about went home to my little apartment with Morgan. And then I got a 2 a.m.

Facebook DM saying,

Because he went out afterwards that night. Oh, that's hilarious. With his sister and stuff. And actually, he just got out of a breakup like less than a month. And the reason why he was out that night is because Melanie drug him out because he was depressed over his breakup. He's probably going to kill me for saying that. She was saying that. So, yeah, he messaged me at 2 a.m. in the morning.

Exhausted.

And I don't even know what he said. I forgot. But I didn't get it until the next morning. And then he said that he had to be the lifeguard at the pool the next day. And we just started talking ever since. That's so cute. We met in August. And I moved in his house October. So did he ever, like, take you on an official first date or anything like that?

And the way that he asked me to move in, because I was just living in my apartment, he said, um... He said something... He said, we can just paint that extra bedroom pink for Morgan. Aww. That's sweet. That's so cute. So... I don't recommend moving in after three months with a kid, but it worked out. It worked out.

I do, too. Yeah.

All our favorite cocktails. Appetizers.

Appetizers.

Main dishes. Yeah.

I would say probably the most, like,

That's when it kind of took the turn.

That's what I need. I need the proper way. Yes. Because what I did was not it.

All I had was what I had.

They did. You used cold brew, huh? I did. Yeah. Because I saw this with Tiffany.

I feel like I just found myself after 16 years. Literally.

Yeah.

Okay, if you have little ones, little ones, toddlers, that is harder. It is. I feel like as my kids gotten older, it's gotten easier.

It's probably the hardest on me because my kids... I mean, this is the first time I haven't been pregnant. Yeah. I was legit pregnant every three years.

i get the shame feeling but take that shame take it to real friends and watch shame disappear that's exactly right it's really good all right let's go to valerie in san antonio texas valerie how can we help hello i was just wondering when i'm looking at baby steps four five and six are you supposed to you know max out number four first before you move to five before you pay more towards the house or i know you're supposed to do them all together but i just don't know how much of each

Yes. So you suggest putting all 15% before you do five and six, right? Yeah.

Yes, it does. Thank you so much.

Yes, ma'am.

Yes.

That's right. Yes. With the travel and the speaking. Yes, totally.

Yes.

I want to know how to get a crisp crust on a pizza. I've tried everything from solid pizza pans to pizza pans with holes, thinner crust, bottom rack, top rack, higher heats, everything. And more times than not, I end up with a soggy crust in the middle. I'd sure like some suggestions on how to fix that. Thank you.