Valerie
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Four the Moms
Meet the Moms
I worked in the dental field before being a stay-at-home mom. I was a dental assistant. My favorite is working in ortho, orthodontics. What made you start TikTok?
Four the Moms
Meet the Moms
Well, yes. I originally did not have a TikTok account. I let Morgan have a TikTok account at a younger age, and I would just... Monitor hers. But then I started to get into it by watching. And then she's like, mom, can you please start your own account? Because I am tired of watching the people that you are following. Oh, because it was on her FYP. Yeah. So I finally created my own.
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And then, you know, I feel like in the very beginning, you're trying to grow followers and you don't know what your niche is going to be. So you're doing like trends and doing other things.
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Recording myself in the kitchen and just trying to cook a meal like I typically do off of Pinterest or something. Yeah, trying. So just trying.
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Meet the Moms
I had a couple other videos of Austin running to the wall off of a roller coaster thing. You know, it would get views, but most of my views came from being a mom in the kitchen, the chaos. And people like to see the realness. And I didn't edit out me fussing at my kids or me messing up a meal or... Yeah, I didn't edit out any of the chaos. People just like the realness. So I just kept that going.
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Meet the Moms
Not just TikTok. People are like, oh, if TikTok shuts down, what are they going to do?
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And you will see who's real and who's not. Because there's people that I follow that... You can clearly see that.
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And it's because, I mean, I appreciate companies reaching out to work with you and you feel like, oh. But I feel like they also take advantage. Yeah, and I don't want to... I feel like a little spoiled brat, like, oh, no, that's not enough.
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Meet the Moms
But now, being into it, I notice that they want to lowball you first. Oh, for sure. I get it. I get it. They want to see what they can get out of you, but you've got to know your worth and know that you're worth more than that and that you deserve more. Yeah. Yep.
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I sent somebody to Jasmine. I'm like, oh, you watch her? And I'm like, well, first off, if you do not even know who she is, our friendship is done. Okay, well, don't send anybody to me because I don't know anybody. And I think the main one was like Alex Earl. I'm like, everybody knows Alex Earl. She's like, I've never seen her before.
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I think everybody would. And put it on all social medias because I hated that I did not start Facebook, YouTube, and all that when I first started TikTok.
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Meet the Moms
It made it blow up. Because everybody was on there. I mean, YouTube's been around forever. That's all we had to do, but...
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I remember going live for like the first time I had three people in my life. Oh, for sure.
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You're talking to yourself. I am like, this is awkward as hell. Yeah. Oh, yeah.
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Meet the Moms
That's the biggest thing. It's just crazy how you grow. But I remember how awkward it was when I see three people in there. Yeah. And I'm like, all right, I'm going to exit out now.
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Meet the Moms
And I hear a lot of people say that they don't know what to do on live or they don't really have a lot of interaction live. I find that I have more interaction on live when I am doing something. If I'm cooking or whatever. But if you're just sitting there, you don't really have a lot of people watching. They just... I guess, like, your niche is what they want to see live.
Four the Moms
Meet the Moms
The most I made was at your house for Christmas. Unless they're like these bigger creators who have like a lot of subscribers. The nut butter. I think the most I've made was like a hundred bucks on live.
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Meet the Moms
And how I know that it's real is because if you see any other – TikTok groups, it's nothing but making content.
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Meet the Moms
I'm like, if we're going to wear blazers, they're going to have to be the exact same blazer. Yeah.
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Meet the Moms
There was one more. It was Moms Unfiltered. Moms on Court. On Court. Moms on Court, but that was taken.
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I didn't know you did pageants. I think I just found that out when we were doing our photo shoot.
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To get them. My aunt did that for a Christmas gift one year of all of our VHS tapes from when we were little. And we got a whole little album of CDs. Everyone used to have her video camera.
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Yes. I was just saying that the other day. I said, I'm looking at Charlie and I said she looks just like her daddy. Yeah. Whitley looks just like you. Yeah. But Charlie acts like you do.
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It's like when you talk to people or watch their videos for so long. You feel like you know them, yeah. B-girls, when I first met them, it did not feel like I just met them because I've watched them for so long. The first time we met them was the girl strip, right?
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Yeah, she done messaged me three times for the pineapple, but y'all said the pineapple doesn't taste good.
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Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Tell her to spray some. She knows I'm busy today. Yeah. Spray some. I gave her Motrin before. What is it called? Let me see if my mother-in-law can do this.
Four the Moms
Meet the Moms
Guys, this is Valerie. V. Rogers 17. I am Valerie. I am married almost 10 years this year. And I need you to book my 10-year trip because October is my 10-year anniversary. I have four kids. I met my husband when Morgan was four. So a lot of people want to know if Mark is Morgan's dad. He is not. So I have a 16 year old, a 10 year old, an eight year old and a four year old.
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No, you don't. It's stimulation. It's totally different. Yeah. That's how it was for me. It's totally different.
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Even just sitting in my car. Yes. I will go sit. Yeah. I will go sit in the parking lot somewhere. Yes.
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Also, you need some time with your husband because I learn quickly. Just from our last two Vegas and Nashville trips, that me and my husband don't fight when the kids are not around. No, literally. A lot of it is rooted around the kids. As soon as we landed back into Louisiana off that airplane, we're fighting. Well, bickering, not fighting. We don't want to fight. No, yeah. Yeah.
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just with the kids and stuff like that. But when the kids are not around, it's back to when y'all were dating. Yeah. So finding your relationship, your marriage again is nice.
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I think that's huge. And I'm very grateful. I've gone across some people that don't have husbands that don't pick up a finger at home. They think they go to work and don't. I feel so sorry.
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They're waiting for you to yell before they start listening. And they're like, okay, I'll do it. Mason waits for you to get up and the hand comes up. Then he'll do what he needs to do.
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oh my gosh that kid will make you chase her yeah like ava's soft hearted she'll cry that's how l is you literally just look at her the right way she's like i'm not your friend no more you've been my friend all day i'm not your friend no more now oh my god dad is my favorite yes uh when we say no i'm like go see him then yeah go go bother dad yeah
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If there's one way that Kelsey doesn't fit in, is that bitch will wake up at 3 o'clock in the morning to go work out. That ain't me. I will. Y'all, I will. She's good with that. I enjoy that. I can't.
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I felt taken advantage of when we invited her. We agreed to... Made her feel included.
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I would say that she... That's not her. Her personality has changed.
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I met her through our daughters went to school together. And that's how I met her. And always looked at her as a little sister. Yeah. Took two years to figure out her true colors. But, you know, some people...
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And even if they... even them knowing the truth, they still don't have something to say.
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Well, hold on. I was trying to... I mean, we're still like... Cordial. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
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I like, I commend you because I can't even, I can't even go 25 minutes down the road from my house to the kid's school because we're in a car and all, Oh yeah, in that small area on top of each other. The car don't get y'all.
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The car time don't get y'all because I feel... My anxiety's through the roof by the time I get home. I am in a good mood when I pick them up and when they get in the car start fighting and I'm just like... Oh yeah. Yeah.
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Um, I met Mark at a Mexican restaurant. Um, Morgan was four years old at the time and me and old friend were out and she was with her daughter. And then, um, We have somewhat of a connection with her daughter and my husband's family. And then we went and ate dinner with them. And I was like, who's that across the table? Who is he? Who is he? And she's like, that is Melanie's brother.
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And I was like, oh, is he single? And she picks up her phone and she texts Melanie and she said... Valerie is interested and she leans over to Mark and he said, I'm down. So we were going to a birth. Actually, we're going to be at the birthday party the next day together. Didn't even notice it. And then I went about went home to my little apartment with Morgan. And then I got a 2 a.m.
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Because he went out afterwards that night. Oh, that's hilarious. With his sister and stuff. And actually, he just got out of a breakup like less than a month. And the reason why he was out that night is because Melanie drug him out because he was depressed over his breakup. He's probably going to kill me for saying that. She was saying that. So, yeah, he messaged me at 2 a.m. in the morning.
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And I don't even know what he said. I forgot. But I didn't get it until the next morning. And then he said that he had to be the lifeguard at the pool the next day. And we just started talking ever since. That's so cute. We met in August. And I moved in his house October. So did he ever, like, take you on an official first date or anything like that?
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And the way that he asked me to move in, because I was just living in my apartment, he said, um... He said something... He said, we can just paint that extra bedroom pink for Morgan. Aww. That's sweet. That's so cute. So... I don't recommend moving in after three months with a kid, but it worked out. It worked out.
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That's what I need. I need the proper way. Yes. Because what I did was not it.
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They did. You used cold brew, huh? I did. Yeah. Because I saw this with Tiffany.
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Okay, if you have little ones, little ones, toddlers, that is harder. It is. I feel like as my kids gotten older, it's gotten easier.
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It's probably the hardest on me because my kids... I mean, this is the first time I haven't been pregnant. Yeah. I was legit pregnant every three years.
The Ramsey Show
Building Wealth Happens One Baby Step at a Time
i get the shame feeling but take that shame take it to real friends and watch shame disappear that's exactly right it's really good all right let's go to valerie in san antonio texas valerie how can we help hello i was just wondering when i'm looking at baby steps four five and six are you supposed to you know max out number four first before you move to five before you pay more towards the house or i know you're supposed to do them all together but i just don't know how much of each
The Ramsey Show
Building Wealth Happens One Baby Step at a Time
Yes. So you suggest putting all 15% before you do five and six, right? Yeah.
The Ramsey Show
The Road to Financial Freedom Is Paved With Grit
That's right. Yes. With the travel and the speaking. Yes, totally.