Vanessa Marin

Another classic mistake that I see most couples making, which is that we leave sex to the very end of the night.

We just have that idea in our heads like, oh, we're all teeth brushed, all cleaned up, crawling into bed.

That's the time for sex.

That is the worst time for sex.

By the time you're crawling into bed, you are exhausted.

You're thinking about the next day.

You're thinking about the crazy day you just had.

You're doing that mental math in your head of, okay, if I fall asleep in the next five minutes, then I can get this many hours of sleep.

That is the worst time to get excited about sex.

So I always encourage couples, try to have sex as early in the evening as you can.

obviously everybody has different schedules.

We have different things going on, but try to prioritize it as early as you possibly can.

So if it's, we're not going to watch TV until we've had sex first, maybe it's even, we're going to have sex and then we're going to have dinner or we're going to have dinner, have sex, then we'll come back and clean everything up, but do it earlier.

So you actually have the energy to have that intimacy with each other.

Okay.

If you really think back on it, in the early days of a relationship, so I'll talk about me and Xander.

When we started having sex and then we're planning dates with each other,

We're scheduling sex.

Because you're planning dates.

We're planning dates.