Vanessa Marin

It's not one person like putting themselves out there being really vulnerable.

It's both of us saying, hey, this is important to us.

We want to make sure there's time for us in this crazy busy day.

So that has felt so nice for us lately.

I think it's a great tip for a lot of couples to try out.

That's the age-old question, right?

So there really truly is no perfect answer.

Like, every couple is so unique.

And I know this is a very unsatisfying answer.

Like, we all want to hear this magic number.

I think a lot of us have a lot of anxiety about our sex life.

Like, am I having enough?

Are we normal?

And so we want something, like, simple and concrete, like a number.

Just tell me.

Just tell me the number, and we can do it.

But here's what happens.

Like, let's say I say three times a week is the perfect amount of time.

If you're pushing yourselves to have sex just to hit a quota, it's probably not going to be very good sex.

And there's a huge connection between our enjoyment of sex and our desire for it.