Vanessa Marin

Like when we are fetuses in the womb,

We are actually, we all start off essentially with no gender.

And then around 11 weeks or so, that's when we start to differentiate into male or female.

So the analogy I always give is like, imagine a ball of clay.

So I could take a ball of clay and I could form it into a mug, or I could take that same ball of clay and I could form it into a plate.

So it's the same ball of clay that I'm starting with, I'm just making different shapes out of it, right?

So the same tissues that make the penis

make the clitoris.

Same tissues, they're just turned into different shapes, right?

So the problem is when we're having intercourse, we're not getting clitoral stimulation.

So we're not getting the most sensitive part of our body stimulated.

So the comparison that I always like to make is that intercourse for a woman from a nerve ending standpoint, it's like playing with a man's balls.

Like that might be fun.

That might feel good.

But is it going to be enough stimulation for you to have an orgasm?

Definitely not.

But that's what we're doing to women is we're stimulating this part of our body that's not really designed to feel a lot of pleasure.

And then so many of us women are feeling like something's wrong with us or broken with us for not enjoying intercourse.

The G-spot's a really interesting thing.

So there actually isn't consensus in the sex therapy field about whether or not the G-spot actually exists.