Vanessa Marin

So one of my favorite conversation openers is to ask, like, what are some of your favorite sexual memories with me?

Just that.

So, you know, ask your partner to share a memory.

If you're worried about them, you know, feeling nervous, you can go first and share one of yours.

So I like saying something like, you know, it just randomly popped into my head the other day, that trip that we took to Mexico on our anniversary, you know, that time we barely left the hotel room.

It was just a fun little memory that I thought of.

Or you can even say you had a dream about it.

Oh, you know what I had a dream about last night?

That, you know, da-da-da.

So you're just sharing it in a positive way and just leave it there.

Don't go into, oh, what happened to us?

We haven't done that in a long time.

Just leave it there.

Have a positive conversation.

Yeah, keep it positive.

So eventually you start building that foundation and the two of you start realizing, hey, it can actually be fun to talk about sex.

It can feel connecting to talk about sex.

It doesn't feel as scary and taboo anymore.

I think you should be talking about sex at least a couple of times a week.

Yeah.