Vanessa Marin

So many women, they think, he's just horny.

He just wants to get off.

I could be any warm body.

It doesn't matter.

And a lot of men, they just perpetuate that stereotype because they never share that actual intimacy part of it.

So one of the best ways to do this is right after sex.

A lot of men will say, like, that's when I feel the closest to my partner.

I'm the most open.

I'm vulnerable.

Like, that's when I feel the closest.

But what do most of us do right after we have sex?

We jump up and we go about our day.

We get on our phones.

We go to the bathroom.

We're missing that opportunity.

I call it aftercare, that moment after sex to really, like, linger together.

that in that intimacy that you've just built and created so if a man were to tell his partner just like I feel so close to you right now I love you that was amazing thank you like it doesn't have to be complicated simple something simple like that that would go a really long way in helping women recognize like oh this isn't just a this isn't just a physical release that he's looking for he actually wants to connect with me

Before, yes.

So, okay, I always used to use the phrase, you know, women want more emotional intimacy.

And Xander and I had so many great conversations about this.