Vanessa Marin

That is the easiest position for a woman to orgasm in.

It creates the most stimulation.

And I think it can be really empowering for women, too, because we're in control.

You're dictating the movement, the angle, the pace, the depth.

So it can feel intimidating for a lot of women if they haven't done it or they don't have a lot of confidence.

And one of the big misconceptions that women have, which we get from porn, unfortunately, is we think we're supposed to be bouncing up and down like on a pogo stick kind of thing.

And that's hard on your thighs.

You can do that for maybe 20 to 30 seconds and your thighs start burning after that.

So a lot of women avoid that position because they think that's what it's supposed to be.

But actually grinding is way more effective.

It's going to feel more pleasurable for her.

So it's using your hips to just rock back and forth rather than bouncing up and down.

So you're going to be, as a woman, you're going to be able to last longer.

It's going to create more stimulation because your clitoris can rub against your partner's abdomen.

You can get a little stimulation that way.

And the man will last longer in that position.

It tends to be it's not one of the most stimulating positions for men because you're not in control of it and it's a more subtle movement.

But that can be nice since most women, you know, tend to last a lot longer than men do.

Women need more time.

So it can be a nice way to like balance out the timing.