Vanessa Marin

Other couples, like Xander and I, we have never scheduled sex with a specific time.

But we do talk more openly about, hey, I want to have sex today.

Can we make sure we're prioritizing that?

So I still think there's an element to scheduling around that, even if we're not nailing down the exact date and time that we're doing it.

Yeah, it doesn't have to be.

So some couples say like, you know, they know their schedules and they know, hey, Wednesdays are usually pretty good for us and Saturdays are usually pretty good for us.

So sometimes it's just a knowing ahead of time.

These are the days that tend to be the easiest.

So let's make sure we make some time for each other.

So it can be a lot looser than, you know, it's specifically written down somewhere.

Such a great question.

So I'm all about being very practical.

I think a lot of people, you start drifting away, you're feeling disconnected.

And a lot of people think like, oh, God, we have to go on a vacation together or maybe we have to start therapy or you feel like you have to do these big grand gestures.

And so I try to think about what are the things that we can do on a daily basis that are small, quick, easy, but they're going to give us the maximum bang for our buck.

So I came up with something that I call the get intimate technique.

And the get stands for those three things, G-E-T, gratitude, eye contact, and touch.

So I'll go through each of them.

So gratitude, everybody's heard of gratitude.

I think a lot of us think it's a little bit cheesy.