Vanessa Marin

Oh, hey, I appreciate that you packed kids' lunches.

That's so great.

Or it could be something about them as a person.

Have I told you lately how much you make me laugh?

So just take those few seconds every day.

You can do this every day.

And also I would say, don't be afraid to set yourself up for success with something like this.

When Xander and I were working on each of these things, we set calendar reminders for ourselves to do that.

And I know that sounds very unromantic, very unsexy, but we're humans, we forget despite the best of intentions, like things just fall out of our minds.

And so we just set reminders to ourselves until we built that habit of, hey, say something nice to Xander.

Give him some appreciation.

And then eventually we built that habit and now it comes more naturally.

So that's gratitude.

That's number one.

Second one is eye contact.

It is wild how little eye contact couples make in long-term relationships.

And I would challenge anybody listening, just spend a day noticing.

Don't try to change anything.

Just spend a day noticing how little eye contact you make with your partner.

A lot of us, we don't even look up when our partner enters the room.