Vanessa Marin

And I actually stumbled upon this one because I realized I was doing it.

I'm always on my phone.

Xander would come into the room.

I wouldn't even show him the respect of looking up to acknowledge, like, hey, you're here.

I see you.

It goes back to the I see you again.

This is a way that we can literally show our partner, I see you.

There's nothing that feels worse than being in a relationship and feeling lonely, feeling lonelier than you might if you were single, feeling like your partner just never even sees you.

So my favorite times for this and the easiest times for this are when you're saying hello and goodbye to each other.

Take the time to make eye contact.

Say goodbye.

Say hello.

You know, just those.

And again, this can take five seconds, but it makes such a big difference.

Also, eye contact during sex.

That's another one.

Most people have their eyes closed or they're looking in opposite directions.

And eye contact is such a great way to create real intimacy during sex.

You'd be shocked at how vulnerable it feels.

Most people can look at their partner for a few seconds and then we have to turn away or close our eyes because it just feels so vulnerable.