Vanessa Marin

So I'm not saying it needs to be a 50-50 thing.

But what we're hearing about from women, and especially a lot recently, is they're feeling like they're carrying the majority of the weight around the household.

And it feels like their partner is just yet another person that they have to take care of.

And that doesn't feel very sexy to us women.

You know, if we feel like we have to take care of you like we have to take care of our child, it's not sexy.

I can see that.

So the real heart of chore play is like, yeah, you're my teammate.

You're doing stuff around the house too, and we can be funny and playful and silly about it.

Yeah, yeah, it very often does.

And it's part of, I talked earlier about that, like that take care of me initiation style.

Chore play works really well for somebody who likes that style.

Somebody saying, hey, let me take the kids.

I'll handle them.

Let me clean up after dinner.

Let me, you know, get this off your plate.

It feels really good.

Like, oh, you're letting me relax.

You're letting me have a moment to myself.

You're letting me turn off all those million tabs in my brain just for a few minutes.

Boxers without holes in them.