Vanessa Marin

So why not make it kind of fun and goofy and be playful and silly about it?

But I think ultimately, at the end of the day, the reason that women love it so much is because we want to have a partner who feels like our equal.

who feels like they're contributing to the household too, brings up a really important conversation about mental load.

Have you heard that phrase before?

Mental load?

Yeah, so mental load is the invisible mental labor that goes into running a household.

We have chores and responsibilities that we have to do, but there's also behind each chore a ton of mental labor.

So it's not just we have to go grocery shopping.

That's the chore.

The mental load is, okay, we have to go grocery shopping on Friday because I have to make muffins for the soccer team on Saturday.

And I have to make sure to get all the ingredients for those muffins.

But I can't get that brand of the muffin mix because the kids didn't like it last time.

And oh, when we're there, we also need to remember to bring those coupons that I got.

And we need to get toilet paper.

You know, it's like it's just this constant, constant list that's going through our heads.

And research shows that women hold the vast majority of the mental load and the responsibilities that like actual chores within a household.

So I think every couple needs to divide things up in the way that feels right for them.

Everybody's life looks different.

Work looks different.

The choices that they choose to make look different.