Vanessa Marin

So, again, women are really sensitive to feeling like you're just trying to get something from them.

But if you spend – and, again, I'm not talking like all day you're just following her around obsessed with her.

But just those little things throughout the day.

Send her a little text from thinking of you.

You know, make sure you give her a kiss before you leave in the morning.

Give her a compliment when you get back.

Like just planting those seeds throughout the day.

Keeping that thread of connection going between the two of you so that it doesn't feel like at the end of the night you're feeling like strangers to each other and there's this huge, like, chasm that you're trying to jump over to get to each other.

Jumping right up and leaving or getting on your phones.

But yeah, we should talk more about phones because phones are really getting in the way of intimacy.

But yeah, most of us just kind of roll over, grab your phone, and you're really missing this opportunity to linger in that connection that the two of you have just built together.

And again, to show her this is about connection for me.

This is not just about I got off and so now I'm out of here.

This is about me wanting to connect with you.

This is also a great time to talk about sex and to get more comfortable talking about sex because you've just had it.

You have an example right in front of you.

You're feeling more open.

It's not this random like, hey, let's talk about sex out of the blue now.

So that can be a great time to give her a compliment about something she did that you really liked or how sexy she looked in a certain position.

It's a great time to bring up something that you want to try next time.