Vanessa Van Edwards

What's the most powerful cue that you don't like but you know is extremely effective in charisma or connection or trust or leadership?

But the research just shows that people are more trustworthy or more competent.

Because if you're soft, it's like you don't believe in your words.

So for example, let's... So tonality and fluctuation at the right moment.

People are so charismatic when you can get the tonality, the inflectuation, is that what it is, of the tonality.

They taught this to us in Toastmasters as one of the 10 initial lessons of being a competent communicator.

One of the exercises is to give a five-minute speech using tonality.

You have to find the cues of when you're like...

Pause and slow, and then you bring it over.

It's like, how do you make it authentic?

Yeah.

Okay, so we have these hand gestures.

This is fine on the table also?

What about hands open on the table?

Yeah, you did.

I did.

Very natural.

It's like you're speaking to a girlfriend just naturally flowing through.

I'm dancing right now.

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