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Vanessa Van Edwards

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On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah. So I, like with friends, or even if business friends come into town, I always ask for a walk and talk. Always. And I never say, let's get coffee. I'm always like, let's get tacos.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah. So I, like with friends, or even if business friends come into town, I always ask for a walk and talk. Always. And I never say, let's get coffee. I'm always like, let's get tacos.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yes.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yes.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Like just to like break it up, break the script a little bit. And I do find there's something about walking and movement that also you have more breath. You're looking around. I have a secret feeling that when I walk and talk with someone, they're more creative.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Like just to like break it up, break the script a little bit. And I do find there's something about walking and movement that also you have more breath. You're looking around. I have a secret feeling that when I walk and talk with someone, they're more creative.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

They're like more open-minded. Like they go places that we could never have gotten. I swear we could have never gotten over a coffee.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

They're like more open-minded. Like they go places that we could never have gotten. I swear we could have never gotten over a coffee.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Yeah.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

But when they're guessing, it's always interesting.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

But when they're guessing, it's always interesting.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And also, let's get to the chemistry of this. When you give an exciting answer, or a different answer, you are creating dopamine. Now, dopamine does a lot of things in our bodies, but in conversation, dopamine is the chemical of motivation and excitement. So if I asked you a question or answered a question in a different way, I highlighted a new neural pathway. My brain went, ooh, something new.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And also, let's get to the chemistry of this. When you give an exciting answer, or a different answer, you are creating dopamine. Now, dopamine does a lot of things in our bodies, but in conversation, dopamine is the chemical of motivation and excitement. So if I asked you a question or answered a question in a different way, I highlighted a new neural pathway. My brain went, ooh, something new.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And that dopamine does a couple things. One, it gets you excited. It makes you feel more positive. Two, Dr. John Medina found that dopamine makes you more memorable. So if you're in conversation and someone's gone on 50 first dates or like you're in a business meeting, especially in business, I say to people, create dopamine in the boardroom. You've got to make your presentation stand out.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And that dopamine does a couple things. One, it gets you excited. It makes you feel more positive. Two, Dr. John Medina found that dopamine makes you more memorable. So if you're in conversation and someone's gone on 50 first dates or like you're in a business meeting, especially in business, I say to people, create dopamine in the boardroom. You've got to make your presentation stand out.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

You've got to create dopamine in an interview. If you're pitching or with a lot of entrepreneurs, you've got to create dopamine in those investors because dopamine is what makes the brain go, oh, this person gave me pleasure. I want to remember them.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

You've got to create dopamine in an interview. If you're pitching or with a lot of entrepreneurs, you've got to create dopamine in those investors because dopamine is what makes the brain go, oh, this person gave me pleasure. I want to remember them.