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Vanessa Van Edwards

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On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

If they have a bad day, they also want to call you, chit-chat, or stop by your office. And so you need to know who's their person. It shouldn't be an introvert. And so this is like pair the extroverts together, right? Like I have a be wonderful sales team and they are my extroverts and I'm not an extrovert. I'm an ambivert.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

If they have a bad day, they also want to call you, chit-chat, or stop by your office. And so you need to know who's their person. It shouldn't be an introvert. And so this is like pair the extroverts together, right? Like I have a be wonderful sales team and they are my extroverts and I'm not an extrovert. I'm an ambivert.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And so they have a Slack channel that I don't even know how to log into Slack. I cannot, I cannot Slack. I don't know if it's a verb or it's a noun, but I can't do it, but they love it. And they're all extroverts together. And so I'm like, go be extroverts, my salespeople. Yes. So you should be very purposeful.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And so they have a Slack channel that I don't even know how to log into Slack. I cannot, I cannot Slack. I don't know if it's a verb or it's a noun, but I can't do it, but they love it. And they're all extroverts together. And so I'm like, go be extroverts, my salespeople. Yes. So you should be very purposeful.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So that question and what my readers have told me is it's sparking these conversations of like, how can I serve you?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So that question and what my readers have told me is it's sparking these conversations of like, how can I serve you?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Like you're an introvert. So if you're having a bad day, do you want space? Like introverts, if you give them bad news and then you're like, any questions? Want to talk it through? They're like, no. So the best thing is like give them the bad news and be like, why don't you take a day or two? We'll regroup on Thursday.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

Like you're an introvert. So if you're having a bad day, do you want space? Like introverts, if you give them bad news and then you're like, any questions? Want to talk it through? They're like, no. So the best thing is like give them the bad news and be like, why don't you take a day or two? We'll regroup on Thursday.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So like just the way that we communicate, if we just talk about it, we're honoring everyone. We're serving everyone.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So like just the way that we communicate, if we just talk about it, we're honoring everyone. We're serving everyone.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

What's the difference? Okay, so 80% of people are ambiverts. So it's actually most people. Very few people are true introverts and true extroverts. We don't talk about ambiversion enough. Ambiversion is a superpower. Ambiversion means that around the right people, you get energy and around the wrong people, you lose energy. I'm in. Yeah. And around the right situations, you get energy. Okay.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

What's the difference? Okay, so 80% of people are ambiverts. So it's actually most people. Very few people are true introverts and true extroverts. We don't talk about ambiversion enough. Ambiversion is a superpower. Ambiversion means that around the right people, you get energy and around the wrong people, you lose energy. I'm in. Yeah. And around the right situations, you get energy. Okay.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So if you're an ambivert, it also means ambiverts are able to dial up. This is why oftentimes ambiverts are mistaken as like outgoing introverts or like social introverts, which is you can dial, right? Like you can dial for two hours, but like if I go to a happy hour and people I was like, what are you talking about awkward? They don't know that I spent two hours flat on my back in the hotel room.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

So if you're an ambivert, it also means ambiverts are able to dial up. This is why oftentimes ambiverts are mistaken as like outgoing introverts or like social introverts, which is you can dial, right? Like you can dial for two hours, but like if I go to a happy hour and people I was like, what are you talking about awkward? They don't know that I spent two hours flat on my back in the hotel room.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

You know what I mean? Like they don't see the recharge process because ambiverts have this power. We can dial up and we can mirror and match. Ambiverts are usually highly empathetic. We are chameleons. We are social chameleons. So ambiverts have this amazing skill where they can dial up to match an extrovert energy.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

You know what I mean? Like they don't see the recharge process because ambiverts have this power. We can dial up and we can mirror and match. Ambiverts are usually highly empathetic. We are chameleons. We are social chameleons. So ambiverts have this amazing skill where they can dial up to match an extrovert energy.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

They can be the life of the party if they want to, but they also can have these beautiful, quiet introvert conversations, but they need a lot of recharge time in between.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

They can be the life of the party if they want to, but they also can have these beautiful, quiet introvert conversations, but they need a lot of recharge time in between.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And so I say it's a superpower and you just know how to, what charges your social battery more or less. I will say for ambiverts, our biggest struggle is ambivalence. Extroverts can like everyone. They can find something good about everyone. Even with a person who is meh, they can still get energy because they are fun.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)

And so I say it's a superpower and you just know how to, what charges your social battery more or less. I will say for ambiverts, our biggest struggle is ambivalence. Extroverts can like everyone. They can find something good about everyone. Even with a person who is meh, they can still get energy because they are fun.