Vanessa Van Edwards

I have a friend who is dating right now and she always says, you know, I never know on a date if, if we're having fun or I'm just fun. Yeah.

I have a friend who is dating right now and she always says, you know, I never know on a date if, if we're having fun or I'm just fun. Yeah.

Yes. He'll make any situation. And extroverts struggle with this. She really struggles. She's like, I don't know which one it is. Yeah. So that's extrovert. Ambiverts and introverts know who their toxic people are. They are like, if I'm not a heck yes, I'm not going. But ambiverts, we tend to be more people pleasing where we'll be like, do I like that person? Do they like me?

Yes. He'll make any situation. And extroverts struggle with this. She really struggles. She's like, I don't know which one it is. Yeah. So that's extrovert. Ambiverts and introverts know who their toxic people are. They are like, if I'm not a heck yes, I'm not going. But ambiverts, we tend to be more people pleasing where we'll be like, do I like that person? Do they like me?

We often have people on our calendar where we look at it and we're like, we tend to have friends out of habit. Like they've just been friends for like a long time. And we like default to the friendship, but actually the friendship, we're not like getting a lot of energy. We're not giving or getting a lot of energy. So it's really important for ambiverts that this is you listening.

We often have people on our calendar where we look at it and we're like, we tend to have friends out of habit. Like they've just been friends for like a long time. And we like default to the friendship, but actually the friendship, we're not like getting a lot of energy. We're not giving or getting a lot of energy. So it's really important for ambiverts that this is you listening.

Don't be ambivalent about your relationships. Ambivalent relationships actually take way more out of you than toxic relationships. When you look at your calendar and you see precious social time being given to someone who's like, meh, you come back a little drained. You come back a little more tired. It makes you not believe in relationship.

Don't be ambivalent about your relationships. Ambivalent relationships actually take way more out of you than toxic relationships. When you look at your calendar and you see precious social time being given to someone who's like, meh, you come back a little drained. You come back a little more tired. It makes you not believe in relationship.

And so I would rather you feel heck yes about someone than ambivalent. And that's a curse of ambiverts. The only curse of our kryptonite to our superpower is we can sometimes let a relationship go that really shouldn't be. As in you allow for it to continue. Yeah. Because you don't know how to stop it and you don't want to hurt their feelings.

And so I would rather you feel heck yes about someone than ambivalent. And that's a curse of ambiverts. The only curse of our kryptonite to our superpower is we can sometimes let a relationship go that really shouldn't be. As in you allow for it to continue. Yeah. Because you don't know how to stop it and you don't want to hurt their feelings.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And you wouldn't know how to have a friendship breakup anyway. And you also, I think that sometimes ambiverts aren't sure what's fun. This is like the weird, I don't know if this is me. Like I'm, I don't know if this is just a woman thing or not. I don't know if you have this. Sometimes I do things and I'm like, am I having fun?

And you wouldn't know how to have a friendship breakup anyway. And you also, I think that sometimes ambiverts aren't sure what's fun. This is like the weird, I don't know if this is me. Like I'm, I don't know if this is just a woman thing or not. I don't know if you have this. Sometimes I do things and I'm like, am I having fun?

I don't know if it's my age or, but I will do things that I've done before. And I wonder like, is this fun? Was Netflix at home better? I don't know. I think it's an ambivert thing. That's something that I've been sort of wrestling with of like, Sometimes I don't even know what fun is.

I don't know if it's my age or, but I will do things that I've done before. And I wonder like, is this fun? Was Netflix at home better? I don't know. I think it's an ambivert thing. That's something that I've been sort of wrestling with of like, Sometimes I don't even know what fun is.

Yes.

Yes.

Of course. And that's magic. And so I think that like, I'm having a personal struggle with this right now where I have some beautiful friendships, but sometimes I'm having conversation and I'm wondering if we're getting anywhere. Yeah.

Of course. And that's magic. And so I think that like, I'm having a personal struggle with this right now where I have some beautiful friendships, but sometimes I'm having conversation and I'm wondering if we're getting anywhere. Yeah.