Vanessa Van Edwards

When people would say that to me, what if you don't like yourself? I had a long time where I didn't like myself. So when someone said be yourself, that was like the worst way to be. And so I had to figure out something else. And so I think that that was the worst advice because it actually didn't help me.

When people would say that to me, what if you don't like yourself? I had a long time where I didn't like myself. So when someone said be yourself, that was like the worst way to be. And so I had to figure out something else. And so I think that that was the worst advice because it actually didn't help me.

What we're losing is freedom. because they're so narrow, those apps. It's like, how do you look? Okay. Now what are these five questions that are on your profile? How did you answer them? Oh, now we're going to text in this very weird, limited way back and forth. And so we lack the freedom to be like, so like, what brings you here to this gym? Oh, you come here a lot.

What we're losing is freedom. because they're so narrow, those apps. It's like, how do you look? Okay. Now what are these five questions that are on your profile? How did you answer them? Oh, now we're going to text in this very weird, limited way back and forth. And so we lack the freedom to be like, so like, what brings you here to this gym? Oh, you come here a lot.

Oh, I saw you with your friend. Like we need more freedom to find our people. I don't dislike dating apps because I think they've created a number of beautiful friendships. But what I think that is really important is you don't use them as your only vehicle for dating. Make them be one vehicle.

Oh, I saw you with your friend. Like we need more freedom to find our people. I don't dislike dating apps because I think they've created a number of beautiful friendships. But what I think that is really important is you don't use them as your only vehicle for dating. Make them be one vehicle.

But then if you're dating and you're really serious about finding your person, make it your part-time job and go to the places where your person would be. So one of my friends is also dating and she's a dog. And I was like, sure, do the apps one, you know, 30 minutes a day at the most. Otherwise, I want you to go to every dog park within a mile of you every day after work. And just look around.

But then if you're dating and you're really serious about finding your person, make it your part-time job and go to the places where your person would be. So one of my friends is also dating and she's a dog. And I was like, sure, do the apps one, you know, 30 minutes a day at the most. Otherwise, I want you to go to every dog park within a mile of you every day after work. And just look around.

Talk to everyone. Talk to men. Talk to women. And just start talking to the people at those dog parks. You know why? They live within a mile of you. They are dog owners. And you can see them with their dog. And she was like, oh. And I was like, that's your part-time job. So just make sure that dating apps aren't your only way.

Talk to everyone. Talk to men. Talk to women. And just start talking to the people at those dog parks. You know why? They live within a mile of you. They are dog owners. And you can see them with their dog. And she was like, oh. And I was like, that's your part-time job. So just make sure that dating apps aren't your only way.

That you're going to the places where they might be and you're spending more time there than on the app.

That you're going to the places where they might be and you're spending more time there than on the app.

Not yet. Not yet. Okay. But that's cool. I should text her.

Not yet. Not yet. Okay. But that's cool. I should text her.

Oh, no. So actually, here's how we do it. Powerful people pause more. Pausing is a signal to someone that you're not rushed. So one, if someone else has paused, you have made them comfortable enough where they don't feel like they have to rush with you. gift. If you are pausing, you are giving space to say, I'm okay for just this second to pause. And so pausing shows you're doing something right.

Oh, no. So actually, here's how we do it. Powerful people pause more. Pausing is a signal to someone that you're not rushed. So one, if someone else has paused, you have made them comfortable enough where they don't feel like they have to rush with you. gift. If you are pausing, you are giving space to say, I'm okay for just this second to pause. And so pausing shows you're doing something right.

No more fake smiles. If you like it, like it. Heck yes, like it. If you don't like it, don't pretend. We would be so much better off with no fake smiles because we would actually know what people like and don't like.

No more fake smiles. If you like it, like it. Heck yes, like it. If you don't like it, don't pretend. We would be so much better off with no fake smiles because we would actually know what people like and don't like.

If you nod at someone and you end up that they're your soulmate and you come to Austin, Texas, I will marry you. Okay, like let's create some soulmates. Let's make some on purpose babies. I love that. I will marry you. If you hate someone and they hate you back-

If you nod at someone and you end up that they're your soulmate and you come to Austin, Texas, I will marry you. Okay, like let's create some soulmates. Let's make some on purpose babies. I love that. I will marry you. If you hate someone and they hate you back-