Vanessa Van Edwards

Self-honesty, specifically. And the last one is depth. So once I started going deep, I realized I need that. I cannot have a surface-level friend. Like, I want to know how is your marriage, but how is it really? Like, I want to go really, really deep. And if I sense that there's any kind of hesitation there, we're not going to be friends.

Self-honesty, specifically. And the last one is depth. So once I started going deep, I realized I need that. I cannot have a surface-level friend. Like, I want to know how is your marriage, but how is it really? Like, I want to go really, really deep. And if I sense that there's any kind of hesitation there, we're not going to be friends.

So I think it's important to think about, yes, hobbies, great. Like you want to do activities with these people. But what are your core friendship values?

So I think it's important to think about, yes, hobbies, great. Like you want to do activities with these people. But what are your core friendship values?

Okay. Think about all the things that drive you crazy about your current friends. Okay? Okay?

Okay. Think about all the things that drive you crazy about your current friends. Okay? Okay?

Think about friendships that didn't work out, that had a lot of potential, but, like, they fizzled. You never quite had a good time with them. Or friends that you get together with them all the time, but they still wouldn't be a best friend.

Think about friendships that didn't work out, that had a lot of potential, but, like, they fizzled. You never quite had a good time with them. Or friends that you get together with them all the time, but they still wouldn't be a best friend.

Like what is blocking? What is missing there? And it could be on either side, right? It's like not all just up to them. So think about what drives you crazy. And then like what makes you feel healed? What makes you feel good? What makes you feel calm? What makes you feel like yourself?

Like what is blocking? What is missing there? And it could be on either side, right? It's like not all just up to them. So think about what drives you crazy. And then like what makes you feel healed? What makes you feel good? What makes you feel calm? What makes you feel like yourself?

Give me an example of that.

Give me an example of that.

Oh my gosh. Well, at least 400,000 students who I can count, but millions more.

Oh my gosh. Well, at least 400,000 students who I can count, but millions more.

And it's actually probably way more than that, but that's just what we can count.

And it's actually probably way more than that, but that's just what we can count.

They want to be master communicators.

They want to be master communicators.

They want to be able to ask for what they want and get it. If you are a master communicator, no matter what you want, again, if it's a partner or a business deal, you can get it if you can communicate well.

They want to be able to ask for what they want and get it. If you are a master communicator, no matter what you want, again, if it's a partner or a business deal, you can get it if you can communicate well.