Vanessa Van Edwards

It will get you everything you want. You want a better relationship? You want a soulmate? You want a raise? You want a promotion? You want a business? You want more friends? You want a support system? It will even get you longevity. That's how strong I feel about it.

It will get you everything you want. You want a better relationship? You want a soulmate? You want a raise? You want a promotion? You want a business? You want more friends? You want a support system? It will even get you longevity. That's how strong I feel about it.

If you have incredible relationships and you're able to communicate your ideas so people like you and they listen, your life changes.

If you have incredible relationships and you're able to communicate your ideas so people like you and they listen, your life changes.

Look, there are certain people born out the womb charismatic. Great hand gestures, great eyebrows right out the womb. There are those very unique people. But most of us learn charisma. Most really, really charismatic leaders, they've learned, ah... This nonverbal cue gets people to smile. Oh, with this vocal power, people pay attention and lean in.

Look, there are certain people born out the womb charismatic. Great hand gestures, great eyebrows right out the womb. There are those very unique people. But most of us learn charisma. Most really, really charismatic leaders, they've learned, ah... This nonverbal cue gets people to smile. Oh, with this vocal power, people pay attention and lean in.

And they've accidentally or purposefully learned how to hone their charisma. And the good news is I think anyone can learn it. Anyone, no matter how awkward you are. Believe me, I'm proof. You can learn it.

And they've accidentally or purposefully learned how to hone their charisma. And the good news is I think anyone can learn it. Anyone, no matter how awkward you are. Believe me, I'm proof. You can learn it.

I'm a recovering awkward person. I was so awkward. I had a really hard time communicating with people. I was not well-liked. I had very few friends. If I can learn it, anyone can learn it.

I'm a recovering awkward person. I was so awkward. I had a really hard time communicating with people. I was not well-liked. I had very few friends. If I can learn it, anyone can learn it.

I promise. You know, also, awkwardness dresses up in different ways, right? So I think most people, when they think of awkward, they think of that stereotypical, robotic, unreadable, saying weird things. That was not my brand of awkward. My brand of awkward was trying to be impressive when I clearly wasn't, telling funny stories that were not funny, talking too much. Shocker. Right?

I promise. You know, also, awkwardness dresses up in different ways, right? So I think most people, when they think of awkward, they think of that stereotypical, robotic, unreadable, saying weird things. That was not my brand of awkward. My brand of awkward was trying to be impressive when I clearly wasn't, telling funny stories that were not funny, talking too much. Shocker. Right?

It was saying the wrong things and over-communicating. I also had that Labrador energy, you know, like that golden retriever energy where I'm like…

It was saying the wrong things and over-communicating. I also had that Labrador energy, you know, like that golden retriever energy where I'm like…

Yeah. I'm like super into people. And that was awkward because people would be like, back up. It's okay. And that was awkward because it created, I was so over eager. I so wanted people to like me that I feel like, you know, I was leaning into everyone all the time. And that created awkwardness for people because I was trying so hard.

Yeah. I'm like super into people. And that was awkward because people would be like, back up. It's okay. And that was awkward because it created, I was so over eager. I so wanted people to like me that I feel like, you know, I was leaning into everyone all the time. And that created awkwardness for people because I was trying so hard.

Yeah, but a lot of us, I think, have casual friends. We have, like, you know, acquaintances, people, they know what we do, but then we don't know how to level up. Like, I believe that everyone should have core friendship values. Mine are, for me personally, respect. Meaning they don't show up late. They respect my time. Self-honesty. I actually like honesty, but I prefer self-honesty in a friend.

Yeah, but a lot of us, I think, have casual friends. We have, like, you know, acquaintances, people, they know what we do, but then we don't know how to level up. Like, I believe that everyone should have core friendship values. Mine are, for me personally, respect. Meaning they don't show up late. They respect my time. Self-honesty. I actually like honesty, but I prefer self-honesty in a friend.

I had friendships that didn't work for a long time because they lied to themselves about things. And I'm not a liar, so I would be like, but he's terrible to you. And they'd be like, what? No, he's not. Self-deception doesn't work for me. If that's a core friendship value, you cannot do it. Do you know what I'm saying?

I had friendships that didn't work for a long time because they lied to themselves about things. And I'm not a liar, so I would be like, but he's terrible to you. And they'd be like, what? No, he's not. Self-deception doesn't work for me. If that's a core friendship value, you cannot do it. Do you know what I'm saying?