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Vanessa Van Edwards

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

If different pictures of the same person, like if you have five different pictures of yourself and you put them up on different LinkedIn profiles, people are going to make different judgments of you, which means you can control the kind of judgment you want to make by picking the right picture, but also having the right body language when someone first sees you.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

If different pictures of the same person, like if you have five different pictures of yourself and you put them up on different LinkedIn profiles, people are going to make different judgments of you, which means you can control the kind of judgment you want to make by picking the right picture, but also having the right body language when someone first sees you.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Yeah, I think Samin Vazir, I think, did this study. Yeah. Don't quote me, but I believe Samin Vazir does a lot on digital first impressions. And what's incredible is that small tweaks to your cues can have a massive impact on your impression. So, for example, I've played around with this on mine where I'll have my hand in my picture. Like, there's a big difference.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Yeah, I think Samin Vazir, I think, did this study. Yeah. Don't quote me, but I believe Samin Vazir does a lot on digital first impressions. And what's incredible is that small tweaks to your cues can have a massive impact on your impression. So, for example, I've played around with this on mine where I'll have my hand in my picture. Like, there's a big difference.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

If you were to see me like this with my face on my hand, it's called a face platter.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

If you were to see me like this with my face on my hand, it's called a face platter.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Yeah, it's called a face platter, right? Think of like my face on a platter for anyone who's listening. This is a very different impression than this. Like same face. Face platter, warm, almost feminine, kind of girly, versus this, very professional, very competent. Just that one difference.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Yeah, it's called a face platter, right? Think of like my face on a platter for anyone who's listening. This is a very different impression than this. Like same face. Face platter, warm, almost feminine, kind of girly, versus this, very professional, very competent. Just that one difference.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So all these cues are changing, especially if you're first impression happening on dating profile apps, on LinkedIn, in your email, like a little picture in your email, your website. It is changing the way people treat you and think of you.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So all these cues are changing, especially if you're first impression happening on dating profile apps, on LinkedIn, in your email, like a little picture in your email, your website. It is changing the way people treat you and think of you.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Okay, so she's leaning her head to one side with her cheek on her hand. First, immediately, a head tilt. A head tilt is a universal sign of engagement and warmth. She's giving me nurturing vibes. Don't you want to tell her all your problems? Like, I would guess she's a therapist or a life coach.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Okay, so she's leaning her head to one side with her cheek on her hand. First, immediately, a head tilt. A head tilt is a universal sign of engagement and warmth. She's giving me nurturing vibes. Don't you want to tell her all your problems? Like, I would guess she's a therapist or a life coach.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

She has a watch on, which is a good ornament for competence, so she's probably a therapist or maybe a psychoanalyst. Probably has a degree. She also wears glasses. We like women in glasses and makeup for very competent. It actually ups our competence factor. By the way, this is just the research, not my opinion. And she has a sweater tied around her top, and that's very conservative.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

She has a watch on, which is a good ornament for competence, so she's probably a therapist or maybe a psychoanalyst. Probably has a degree. She also wears glasses. We like women in glasses and makeup for very competent. It actually ups our competence factor. By the way, this is just the research, not my opinion. And she has a sweater tied around her top, and that's very conservative.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So I would say warm and nurturing could be a grandmother likely in a self-help profession.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So I would say warm and nurturing could be a grandmother likely in a self-help profession.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So some cues there we can learn from is we want to balance out the friendliness, the warmth, the approachability with the take me seriously. So you take her seriously because of her watch and her glasses and her lack of a smile. Those are all cues of competence. We like that. We also like those cues of warmth, head tilts, hand on face, and a soft smile.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So some cues there we can learn from is we want to balance out the friendliness, the warmth, the approachability with the take me seriously. So you take her seriously because of her watch and her glasses and her lack of a smile. Those are all cues of competence. We like that. We also like those cues of warmth, head tilts, hand on face, and a soft smile.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So in that way, it's a perfect balance or blend.

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

So in that way, it's a perfect balance or blend.