Vanessa Van Edwards

like I cannot tell you my best friendships have started when I don't play it cool I do not believe in playing it cool it doesn't work I literally I'm like I like you will you be my friend yeah I'm like I have a six and a half year old and a two and a half year old daughter and I watch them on the playground and it's funny they're they're like this they literally will sit in the sandbox my daughter was like do you like trucks and the boy was like I like trucks

like I cannot tell you my best friendships have started when I don't play it cool I do not believe in playing it cool it doesn't work I literally I'm like I like you will you be my friend yeah I'm like I have a six and a half year old and a two and a half year old daughter and I watch them on the playground and it's funny they're they're like this they literally will sit in the sandbox my daughter was like do you like trucks and the boy was like I like trucks

And she was like, I like trucks too. I was like, me too moment. Good job, Claire. And then she was like, you want to be my friend? He was like, yeah. That's it. They're friends. And I was like, this is it. We actually knew how to do this as kids. It's what we used to do. And we've kind of, you know, we're too cool for it.

And she was like, I like trucks too. I was like, me too moment. Good job, Claire. And then she was like, you want to be my friend? He was like, yeah. That's it. They're friends. And I was like, this is it. We actually knew how to do this as kids. It's what we used to do. And we've kind of, you know, we're too cool for it.

Oh, do you?

Oh, do you?

Can we be friends, Jay? Yeah, I know.

Can we be friends, Jay? Yeah, I know.

Also, like, I'm allergic to it.

Also, like, I'm allergic to it.

Like, I don't do well with too cool people. Like, if you can't even show me your liking or you're kind of wanting to put a wall up, we're not going to be good friends because I love level three conversations. I like vulnerability. I like oversharing. So that's like a test also is like, I think we would be good friends. I like you. And if they're like, eh. I'm like, cool. Like, that's cool.

Like, I don't do well with too cool people. Like, if you can't even show me your liking or you're kind of wanting to put a wall up, we're not going to be good friends because I love level three conversations. I like vulnerability. I like oversharing. So that's like a test also is like, I think we would be good friends. I like you. And if they're like, eh. I'm like, cool. Like, that's cool.

Like, I would rather take the shot than miss it.

Like, I would rather take the shot than miss it.

And so I think like, if you're listening, I think it's like, let's, if you like someone like show it, search for those me too moments. And then if you like them, well, first of all, search for reasons to like them. And if you like them, say it. That right there is like the best way to try to find your people. That's going to find them.

And so I think like, if you're listening, I think it's like, let's, if you like someone like show it, search for those me too moments. And then if you like them, well, first of all, search for reasons to like them. And if you like them, say it. That right there is like the best way to try to find your people. That's going to find them.

We all want to be complimented, but it makes us feel very uncomfortable, right? Like there's this weird compliment economics where it's like, please compliment me, but don't. It's weird, right? And it also, it creates an odd hierarchy a little bit where if you're complimenting someone, it separates you.

We all want to be complimented, but it makes us feel very uncomfortable, right? Like there's this weird compliment economics where it's like, please compliment me, but don't. It's weird, right? And it also, it creates an odd hierarchy a little bit where if you're complimenting someone, it separates you.

And also you're putting them in the position of receiving something they might not be ready for, right? Especially, I believe, and if you're going to compliment someone, compliment them on something that you share.

And also you're putting them in the position of receiving something they might not be ready for, right? Especially, I believe, and if you're going to compliment someone, compliment them on something that you share.