Vanessa Van Edwards

You know, I haven't seen research on that. I've only seen research on sunglasses in photos. So I'm going to say in person I think it's okay. But I will say, like, have you ever been with someone and they, like, take off their glasses to see you better? Has that ever happened to you?

You know, I haven't seen research on that. I've only seen research on sunglasses in photos. So I'm going to say in person I think it's okay. But I will say, like, have you ever been with someone and they, like, take off their glasses to see you better? Has that ever happened to you?

It feels good.

It feels good.

If you want to show someone, I'm going to really listen to you. Take off your glasses. Or roll up your sleeves. So there's also – we know this is a cue. It's like let's get into it. I often see like leaders when they're getting into the get into it part of their speech, they roll up their sleeves. Another one that I like is this one, rubbing your hands together. Okay.

If you want to show someone, I'm going to really listen to you. Take off your glasses. Or roll up your sleeves. So there's also – we know this is a cue. It's like let's get into it. I often see like leaders when they're getting into the get into it part of their speech, they roll up their sleeves. Another one that I like is this one, rubbing your hands together. Okay.

So this is a universal get ready cue. If you are about to share something really, really good to your team, you want to go like this. Guys, I got something good today. Okay. You would like it. You would like it if we were in a team meeting.

So this is a universal get ready cue. If you are about to share something really, really good to your team, you want to go like this. Guys, I got something good today. Okay. You would like it. You would like it if we were in a team meeting.

Right? It's a universal cue of warming up.

Right? It's a universal cue of warming up.

A really bad first impression?

A really bad first impression?

Okay, so bad is taking up as little space as possible.

Okay, so bad is taking up as little space as possible.

Right? No space between our arms and our torso. No space between our shoulders and our earlobes. The second thing is hidden hands. So hands in pockets, hand to the table, hands not in shot. We like to see hands, especially right away. It makes us feel in tension, right? We know what's going to happen. So I'm like, hi, good to see you. I put my hands, a lot of my hands are in my profile pictures.

Right? No space between our arms and our torso. No space between our shoulders and our earlobes. The second thing is hidden hands. So hands in pockets, hand to the table, hands not in shot. We like to see hands, especially right away. It makes us feel in tension, right? We know what's going to happen. So I'm like, hi, good to see you. I put my hands, a lot of my hands are in my profile pictures.

That's a bad one is hidden hands. And the last one is avoidant gaze. We really do like to make eye contact within the first few seconds of meeting someone. It makes us feel like someone's avoiding that oxytocin. It gives us a chemical burst of trust. They even, you know, how you'll do nose spray is full of oxytocin and it immediately makes them share more, open more, connect more. Yeah.

That's a bad one is hidden hands. And the last one is avoidant gaze. We really do like to make eye contact within the first few seconds of meeting someone. It makes us feel like someone's avoiding that oxytocin. It gives us a chemical burst of trust. They even, you know, how you'll do nose spray is full of oxytocin and it immediately makes them share more, open more, connect more. Yeah.

So we want direct eye contact, visible hands, and a broad body. I call it the triple threat, by the way.

So we want direct eye contact, visible hands, and a broad body. I call it the triple threat, by the way.