Vanessa Van Edwards

That is why like the TED Talks that we like the best, the pictures we like the best, they're basically having a really smart conversation with you and you like it. So I like that you're gathering away from me, that you're thinking of a question. The worst interviews I have is where someone is just beating me with questions and not thinking about it.

That is why like the TED Talks that we like the best, the pictures we like the best, they're basically having a really smart conversation with you and you like it. So I like that you're gathering away from me, that you're thinking of a question. The worst interviews I have is where someone is just beating me with questions and not thinking about it.

Okay, so gestures, eye contact. It's okay to make only 60% eye contact. That's the triple threat. The other thing in a first impression that I really like is breaking the script, right? I think in a first impression, it's okay to be like, hey, good morning.

Okay, so gestures, eye contact. It's okay to make only 60% eye contact. That's the triple threat. The other thing in a first impression that I really like is breaking the script, right? I think in a first impression, it's okay to be like, hey, good morning.

But when we do the how are you, good, how are you, good, how are you, good, how are you, and you get like that horrible like loop, I'm going to challenge everyone to try to break the script with how are you. So when someone asks how are you, don't say good. Don't say busy but good. Try to answer with like a little bit of humor if you can.

But when we do the how are you, good, how are you, good, how are you, good, how are you, and you get like that horrible like loop, I'm going to challenge everyone to try to break the script with how are you. So when someone asks how are you, don't say good. Don't say busy but good. Try to answer with like a little bit of humor if you can.

Now, I'm not funny, so we should take this advice with a grain of salt. You are funny. But I'm not that funny. But there's a couple things you can do. So one is you can answer with a number. So like, you laughed. I didn't even do it yet and you already laughed.

Now, I'm not funny, so we should take this advice with a grain of salt. You are funny. But I'm not that funny. But there's a couple things you can do. So one is you can answer with a number. So like, you laughed. I didn't even do it yet and you already laughed.

Most people say seven. I was going to say seven.

Most people say seven. I was going to say seven.

Right? So if you're like, someone's like, how are you? And you're like, seven on a 10 scale. Right? Like it just, it breaks the script a little bit. I also love when you say what you're wrestling with. So I might be like, just been fighting my inbox all day, but a good 10 out of 10.

Right? So if you're like, someone's like, how are you? And you're like, seven on a 10 scale. Right? Like it just, it breaks the script a little bit. I also love when you say what you're wrestling with. So I might be like, just been fighting my inbox all day, but a good 10 out of 10.

Like, sometimes it's good to give, like, a little bit of context of, like, what you've been dealing with for the day. Or if you know that you look a mess, you can be like, better on the inside than the outside.

Like, sometimes it's good to give, like, a little bit of context of, like, what you've been dealing with for the day. Or if you know that you look a mess, you can be like, better on the inside than the outside.

Right? Like, something that just gets people thinking a little bit, it kind of breaks the script and it makes for a very nice first impression.

Right? Like, something that just gets people thinking a little bit, it kind of breaks the script and it makes for a very nice first impression.

And break the script.

And break the script.

Break the script. So like, I'd rather you take a little bit of a risk and have some conversational courage to not do the script, right? Because then you're going to make a way better first impression. And that also means not asking, how are you? But instead being like, what's good? It's like when I start a conversation, like anytime, I try never to ask, how are you? I try to say, what's good?

Break the script. So like, I'd rather you take a little bit of a risk and have some conversational courage to not do the script, right? Because then you're going to make a way better first impression. And that also means not asking, how are you? But instead being like, what's good? It's like when I start a conversation, like anytime, I try never to ask, how are you? I try to say, what's good?