Vanessa Van Edwards

Anything good today? It's a very subtle, subtle change on that. And it makes people think for a second in a good way. Oh, yeah, what's good? And it totally changes the nature of the conversation.

Anything good today? It's a very subtle, subtle change on that. And it makes people think for a second in a good way. Oh, yeah, what's good? And it totally changes the nature of the conversation.

I like that one a lot. I would prefer, what have you been looking forward to? Are you looking forward to anything in your life?

I like that one a lot. I would prefer, what have you been looking forward to? Are you looking forward to anything in your life?

Yeah, it's juicing excitement. So like I think our job, if you want to really be a master communicator, is you are gifting good chemicals. You know that phrase like lead people better than you found them?

Yeah, it's juicing excitement. So like I think our job, if you want to really be a master communicator, is you are gifting good chemicals. You know that phrase like lead people better than you found them?

I take that quite literally. I think master communicators are literally gifting beautiful chemicals to the other person. They're making people feel super full of dopamine. Dopamine is like very simplified. Excitement, motivation, energy. They're gifting testosterone. You feel capable. You feel smart. Wow, you're good at what you do. And you leave feeling like, I'm so good.

I take that quite literally. I think master communicators are literally gifting beautiful chemicals to the other person. They're making people feel super full of dopamine. Dopamine is like very simplified. Excitement, motivation, energy. They're gifting testosterone. You feel capable. You feel smart. Wow, you're good at what you do. And you leave feeling like, I'm so good.

This is for men and women. You're gifting serotonin, calm, belonging. You got this. You can be yourself with me. I give you permission to be yourself. I love you for who you are. I think one of the reasons why people often verbal vomit on me, like they tell me everything about their lives. I think it's because I'm like trying to gift them serotonin.

This is for men and women. You're gifting serotonin, calm, belonging. You got this. You can be yourself with me. I give you permission to be yourself. I love you for who you are. I think one of the reasons why people often verbal vomit on me, like they tell me everything about their lives. I think it's because I'm like trying to gift them serotonin.

I want them to feel like they can be absolutely themselves and I accept them for exactly who they are. So serotonin, dopamine, and testosterone, if we can gift those out, I call it like the chemical cocktail. Like that's the cocktail I want to give to everyone in my conversation and that's what master communicators are doing.

I want them to feel like they can be absolutely themselves and I accept them for exactly who they are. So serotonin, dopamine, and testosterone, if we can gift those out, I call it like the chemical cocktail. Like that's the cocktail I want to give to everyone in my conversation and that's what master communicators are doing.

Okay, so you break the script by just waking me up, right? Like, this is going to be different. Then you ask, what have you been looking forward to? Like, if you ask me what's been front of mind, I'm going to probably give you a negative answer, to be quite honest with you. Do you usually get negative answers to that question?

Okay, so you break the script by just waking me up, right? Like, this is going to be different. Then you ask, what have you been looking forward to? Like, if you ask me what's been front of mind, I'm going to probably give you a negative answer, to be quite honest with you. Do you usually get negative answers to that question?

Yeah, and I would argue like you would be more engaged if you got an exciting answer even in this setting. So you're bored. They're bored. So one, if you're like looking forward to anything, got any fun plans coming up, those are all like gifting little bits of dopamine. Then capitalizing on any moment that I call it a me too moment. I have this theory. It's called thread theory.

Yeah, and I would argue like you would be more engaged if you got an exciting answer even in this setting. So you're bored. They're bored. So one, if you're like looking forward to anything, got any fun plans coming up, those are all like gifting little bits of dopamine. Then capitalizing on any moment that I call it a me too moment. I have this theory. It's called thread theory.

And it's this idea that in conversation – Mm. Mm. Like chemically. And that makes me feel serotonin. It makes me feel calm, belonging. I can be myself. So anytime in a conversation that someone says anything that you agree with or you feel like I have that too, you want to capitalize and be like, thread, me too. How do you stop it?

And it's this idea that in conversation – Mm. Mm. Like chemically. And that makes me feel serotonin. It makes me feel calm, belonging. I can be myself. So anytime in a conversation that someone says anything that you agree with or you feel like I have that too, you want to capitalize and be like, thread, me too. How do you stop it?

Okay, so there's a big difference between how you said it and how I said it. Okay, so I say, I just got a Cybertruck. Oh yeah, join the club.

Okay, so there's a big difference between how you said it and how I said it. Okay, so I say, I just got a Cybertruck. Oh yeah, join the club.