Vanessa Van Edwards

So these checklists, I think, are creating a lot of rigidity. And then you add in the busyness trap, which is I'm so successful, I'm so busy. Busy is not a mark of success.

So these checklists, I think, are creating a lot of rigidity. And then you add in the busyness trap, which is I'm so successful, I'm so busy. Busy is not a mark of success.

I don't know if that's ambivalence. I think that is... Numbness. Like, people have gotten really attractive. I don't know if you've noticed this. Yeah, they have. My goodness, people are so pretty. Like, I'm on Instagram and I'm like, how does everyone look so good? Like, I didn't really know anyone with an eight pack when I went to school. Like, did you? No, because that wasn't really a thing.

I don't know if that's ambivalence. I think that is... Numbness. Like, people have gotten really attractive. I don't know if you've noticed this. Yeah, they have. My goodness, people are so pretty. Like, I'm on Instagram and I'm like, how does everyone look so good? Like, I didn't really know anyone with an eight pack when I went to school. Like, did you? No, because that wasn't really a thing.

I'm like old, right? Like no one had that. There was no social media. So like people had like, you know, normal looks. Now people are extremely attractive. And so I think that the bar has gone up so that we're all like numb to how beautiful people are, how funny people are, how kind people are because we've been on a thousand dates.

I'm like old, right? Like no one had that. There was no social media. So like people had like, you know, normal looks. Now people are extremely attractive. And so I think that the bar has gone up so that we're all like numb to how beautiful people are, how funny people are, how kind people are because we've been on a thousand dates.

Or the funniest, best thing they ever did is on their Instagram and we saw it. So anything else is like, eh.

Or the funniest, best thing they ever did is on their Instagram and we saw it. So anything else is like, eh.

seen it like nothing is impressive anymore like i there's two challenges i recommend for people who are in like kind of a funk like if you're in like a you're burnt out or you're feeling lonely or you're like things are not working there's two challenges you could consider the first one is really hard it's the no mirror challenge it's you go 30 days without looking in a mirror

seen it like nothing is impressive anymore like i there's two challenges i recommend for people who are in like kind of a funk like if you're in like a you're burnt out or you're feeling lonely or you're like things are not working there's two challenges you could consider the first one is really hard it's the no mirror challenge it's you go 30 days without looking in a mirror

Something really crazy happens when you cannot see yourself and see how good you look and see what you look like. And it's especially powerful for women. I did it for 30 days. And I went, you have to do all your normal things. You have to go to meetings. You have to go out without looking in a mirror, which means usually you don't wear makeup. You don't do your hair.

Something really crazy happens when you cannot see yourself and see how good you look and see what you look like. And it's especially powerful for women. I did it for 30 days. And I went, you have to do all your normal things. You have to go to meetings. You have to go out without looking in a mirror, which means usually you don't wear makeup. You don't do your hair.

You kind of just go out as you are. First, you realize that people still like you. even if you don't look perfect. So no mirror challenge can give you a lot of confidence and also can show you where your true relationships, your true friends are.

You kind of just go out as you are. First, you realize that people still like you. even if you don't look perfect. So no mirror challenge can give you a lot of confidence and also can show you where your true relationships, your true friends are.

The second challenge is a social media or an online blackout challenge, which is if you don't have any dopamine from your phone, you have to go get dopamine and oxytocin from in-person relationships. So if you have a blackout where you cannot go on any social media or have any kind of interactions on your phone and you have to go out in person, you actually do.

The second challenge is a social media or an online blackout challenge, which is if you don't have any dopamine from your phone, you have to go get dopamine and oxytocin from in-person relationships. So if you have a blackout where you cannot go on any social media or have any kind of interactions on your phone and you have to go out in person, you actually do.

Like I remember when I used to travel for work and I'd get to a city and there was nothing to do. Like there was no phone in my hotel. I did not have an iPad. You could read a book or you could try to go out. And that's what I would do. I would like get to a city and I'd be like, well, I have nothing to do in the hotel room. There's literally nothing to do. I had my book.

Like I remember when I used to travel for work and I'd get to a city and there was nothing to do. Like there was no phone in my hotel. I did not have an iPad. You could read a book or you could try to go out. And that's what I would do. I would like get to a city and I'd be like, well, I have nothing to do in the hotel room. There's literally nothing to do. I had my book.

I could go to the hotel bar. I could go walk around the city. And I met more people in that time of my life than I do now, even though I'm connected to more people than ever.

I could go to the hotel bar. I could go walk around the city. And I met more people in that time of my life than I do now, even though I'm connected to more people than ever.