Vanessa Van Edwards

Yeah. So I think, look, I don't know, but my guess would be why you don't want to go out with people is because you have to give up control and you have to be in a conversation where you might be asked something that might be boring or you don't like it. And like, why? Why?

Yeah. So I think, look, I don't know, but my guess would be why you don't want to go out with people is because you have to give up control and you have to be in a conversation where you might be asked something that might be boring or you don't like it. And like, why? Why?

I don't love a networking event, but I've found that if I have a very specific goal, it's better. So for example, I'm researching my next book. I'm looking for conversational case studies. So I'm going to the event and I'm like, okay, tonight I'm going to try a new question and see how it goes. you know, I'm then, I'm like, okay, I have a purpose.

I don't love a networking event, but I've found that if I have a very specific goal, it's better. So for example, I'm researching my next book. I'm looking for conversational case studies. So I'm going to the event and I'm like, okay, tonight I'm going to try a new question and see how it goes. you know, I'm then, I'm like, okay, I have a purpose.

Or if I'm like, I'm going to practice some new jokes. Or if I'm like, I'm looking from a new, you know, business inspiration. Like that helps me. So I think no one really likes networking events, but if you have a goal, it makes it a little bit better.

Or if I'm like, I'm going to practice some new jokes. Or if I'm like, I'm looking from a new, you know, business inspiration. Like that helps me. So I think no one really likes networking events, but if you have a goal, it makes it a little bit better.

Oh, this is my favorite topic. As a leader, especially if you're trying to meet people and new people especially, what do you do needs to be I am a who helps leader. A lot of leaders struggle with building the right connections. And so they'll be very either like intellectual with their answer or very vague. So like I've heard business leaders say, oh, you know, I run a tech company.

Oh, this is my favorite topic. As a leader, especially if you're trying to meet people and new people especially, what do you do needs to be I am a who helps leader. A lot of leaders struggle with building the right connections. And so they'll be very either like intellectual with their answer or very vague. So like I've heard business leaders say, oh, you know, I run a tech company.

That is a dream killer for a conversation. People don't know what to do with that. So what you're better off saying is I have a tech company and we help aspiring cooks.

That is a dream killer for a conversation. People don't know what to do with that. So what you're better off saying is I have a tech company and we help aspiring cooks.

I love Tim. So Tim is my person, okay? Tim is my person. Let me tell you about Tim. So Tim is a code monkey slash software engineer, which we'll watch that video in a second. He is highly technical. He's very kind. He loves what he does. And on the date, he was actually the only person of the four speed daters who showed warmth the entire time. And I didn't know.

I love Tim. So Tim is my person, okay? Tim is my person. Let me tell you about Tim. So Tim is a code monkey slash software engineer, which we'll watch that video in a second. He is highly technical. He's very kind. He loves what he does. And on the date, he was actually the only person of the four speed daters who showed warmth the entire time. And I didn't know.

I even said to Jack, I was like, I think he's into her. And I asked him afterwards, I said, are you into her? And he said, no. And I was very impressed with him because he still showed warmth, congeniality, and kindness, even though he wasn't physically into her. And I was like, this is magic. I also think that Tim came across as a little bit nervous and a little bit awkward.

I even said to Jack, I was like, I think he's into her. And I asked him afterwards, I said, are you into her? And he said, no. And I was very impressed with him because he still showed warmth, congeniality, and kindness, even though he wasn't physically into her. And I was like, this is magic. I also think that Tim came across as a little bit nervous and a little bit awkward.

And I was like, ooh, Tim, if we could just dial up your confidence and add that to your warmth, you are going to find your person. And so I love Tim. We can watch his interaction.

And I was like, ooh, Tim, if we could just dial up your confidence and add that to your warmth, you are going to find your person. And so I love Tim. We can watch his interaction.

Okay, you're going to have a great date. First, can I help you out with some advice? Yeah. Okay, so ignore the cameras completely. Okay. You're making great eye contact, which I love. She's probably going to ask you, what do you do? Okay. What is your answer to that question?

Okay, you're going to have a great date. First, can I help you out with some advice? Yeah. Okay, so ignore the cameras completely. Okay. You're making great eye contact, which I love. She's probably going to ask you, what do you do? Okay. What is your answer to that question?

Okay, cool. So anytime I meet a software engineer, it's a good answer, but it's a conversational dead end. Yeah. Because unless I'm a software engineer, I don't know what to say. So I'm like... So what I want you to do is actually create a hook. So you're going to say, so what kind of coding do you do?

Okay, cool. So anytime I meet a software engineer, it's a good answer, but it's a conversational dead end. Yeah. Because unless I'm a software engineer, I don't know what to say. So I'm like... So what I want you to do is actually create a hook. So you're going to say, so what kind of coding do you do?