Vanessa Van Edwards

However, he was very warm with her, even though he wasn't into it. I thought that was very respectful.

However, he was very warm with her, even though he wasn't into it. I thought that was very respectful.

Exactly. This is why I'm doing what I'm doing. The number one thing that is causing loneliness is we are withholding our liking, both with friends and in romance. With all of these daters, none of them, 0%, showed any kind of obvious liking. How are we going to have babies? How are we going to have marriages if we're withholding our liking?

Exactly. This is why I'm doing what I'm doing. The number one thing that is causing loneliness is we are withholding our liking, both with friends and in romance. With all of these daters, none of them, 0%, showed any kind of obvious liking. How are we going to have babies? How are we going to have marriages if we're withholding our liking?

How are we going to have friends if we don't know if someone likes us? I think we should be going around showing, amplifying our likes to the people that we're with.

How are we going to have friends if we don't know if someone likes us? I think we should be going around showing, amplifying our likes to the people that we're with.

Okay. So verbally, I think it's very easy, right? You can be very direct and be like, oh my gosh, this is so much fun. So like my magic phrases, right? If someone is interesting, funny, likable, fun, say in that moment, oh, this is so fun. This is so interesting. Being with you is always so interesting.

Okay. So verbally, I think it's very easy, right? You can be very direct and be like, oh my gosh, this is so much fun. So like my magic phrases, right? If someone is interesting, funny, likable, fun, say in that moment, oh, this is so fun. This is so interesting. Being with you is always so interesting.

So that's one way you can do it is affirming the adjective that you're already feeling and saying it out loud. I think that Kendrick was very funny. And I actually said to him in our pre-interview, I was like, oh, you're really funny. That must be a double-edged sword.

So that's one way you can do it is affirming the adjective that you're already feeling and saying it out loud. I think that Kendrick was very funny. And I actually said to him in our pre-interview, I was like, oh, you're really funny. That must be a double-edged sword.

The first guy, yeah. I said, you're really funny. And that made him feel really good. He was like, oh, yeah, yeah, I am. And I was like, I think that's good, but also probably it's harder to get depth. He's like, yes, that's true. So if someone is funny, interesting, delightful, a good conversationalist, tell them. That's the first thing. Don't withhold that.

The first guy, yeah. I said, you're really funny. And that made him feel really good. He was like, oh, yeah, yeah, I am. And I was like, I think that's good, but also probably it's harder to get depth. He's like, yes, that's true. So if someone is funny, interesting, delightful, a good conversationalist, tell them. That's the first thing. Don't withhold that.

Never. Never.

Never. Never.

Yes.

Yes.

Like, we like people who like us. So the more obvious you are with your liking actually just makes you more likable. So affirming them, making sure that they know that you were thinking of them. So like, I was just thinking of you. I was so looking forward to this. I've been looking forward to this all day. And then nonverbal liking. So for men, vocalizations, hmm, ah, oh, hmm. We love those.

Like, we like people who like us. So the more obvious you are with your liking actually just makes you more likable. So affirming them, making sure that they know that you were thinking of them. So like, I was just thinking of you. I was so looking forward to this. I've been looking forward to this all day. And then nonverbal liking. So for men, vocalizations, hmm, ah, oh, hmm. We love those.

We love a triple nod. We love a head tilt. We love a lean. All of those. See? Oh, you know, there was something funny that I read recently, which is, Women list humor as a number one trait they want in a man. Men don't care as much about humor in a woman. They want a woman who laughs at their jokes.

We love a triple nod. We love a head tilt. We love a lean. All of those. See? Oh, you know, there was something funny that I read recently, which is, Women list humor as a number one trait they want in a man. Men don't care as much about humor in a woman. They want a woman who laughs at their jokes.