Vicki Anstey

We were allowed to run through conservancies that are usually restricted to humans on foot.

And so we were amongst the wildlife.

And, you know, that was quite a...

quite the healing journey.

And I'd had some personal challenges to deal with in a relationship that had come to an end and lots of feelings of betrayal.

Again, I do open up about a bit in the book and just being...

surrounded by animals and the earth and the sun.

And again, just standing on my own two feet was just transformative.

I sort of started that race feeling incredibly broken and I think needing to prove that I could somehow stand up again after what I'd been through and ending it just feeling so free and

That I just dropped this cloak finally of trying to bend to other people's narratives and other people's behaviors and their impact on me and starting to realize that it really is all about controlling your internal climate.

Such a good question.

I think I'm getting better at that and I'm in a new relationship and it's wonderful but there are moments where I struggle to be cared for I think I remember my therapist actually asking me at one point do you know how to be looked after and I sort of just burst into tears and I just didn't have an answer so I think I do struggle with that a little bit but

Yeah, I'm learning.

And I think what helps is going through what's a very cathartic process of writing a book.

You start to really reconcile a lot of the kind of patterns of behaviours, my own and other people's, and start to, I guess, yeah, sift through them, work them out, understand them a bit more and become, I guess in some way,

a bit philosophical about it and sort of um distanced and you know and again that all of that has informed the title of the book and the concept of the book that um you know it really is about managing your own forecast and um yeah not stepping into

The behaviours and the... Somebody else's cyclone or somebody else's storm.

And realising that none of that's really about you.

But I think that's human instinct, isn't it?

Because to us, social connection is so vital to our survival.