Viv Groskop

Well, it sounds like it emanates from your voice.

Your voice is a really great example of gravitas and taking your time and waiting for people to come to you.

There's something very powerful in that.

It's something we all could do with a lot more.

It's not racing, just being gentle, letting the points land, giving your ideas room to breathe.

status or status as we call it it's both the same thing is really about how you move through the world it's not to be mistaken with social status so social status is your business card what kind of car you drive what your title is at work how much money you earn what your position is

all of those trappings.

That is social status.

When I talk about happy high status or I talk about status in the area of performance or just being around people, I'm talking about how you look at people, how you talk to them, how you listen to them, the space that you make for them.

And these are not things that really have anything to do with where you stand in society or how entitled you are or how much power you have.

They're all to do with the energy that you bring into a room or into a conversation.

So the more status you can give to others by listening to them, by making them feel heard, by making them feel seen, the more you will conversely

raise your own status.

So there are many ways to be in a situation that don't have to be governed by these external ideas of social status that we have.

I think people are very scared of the visible signs of the opposite of confidence.

They're very scared of having a shaky voice, having shaky hands, sweating, flushing, anything that they think people can see visibly.

These are the things that absolutely terrify people.

And some people, once they've had even a slight hint of that happening,

they will completely avoid doing anything ever again.

And it sort of breaks my heart when I hear about these things.