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He can let himself in if I'm running late so he doesn't have to stand on the doorstep and it just makes life easier.

But my flatmate has absolutely lost the plot about it.

She came home to him in the kitchen making a cup of tea and I wasn't there as I was on my way home and questioned him and found out.

She's saying I should have asked her before giving someone a key to the flat she also lives in, but she doesn't know him well enough that it's a shared space and it wasn't my decision alone to make.

She wasn't rude to him or anything, but the atmosphere has been frosty to say the least.

Part of me thinks it is my flat too and he's my boyfriend and she's being dramatic, but then another part of me probably would have been annoyed if she'd done the same thing without telling me.

Am I the asshole?

I kind of think, I wouldn't say you're an asshole, but you definitely should have flagged it with her first.

You're in the wrong there.

My sweet angel girl.

I don't like to say this to our listeners.

My sweet child.

But you, my friend.

There's only a handful of people that end up being the asshole and you are one of them, but not the asshole.

You are the inconsiderate.

I think you were probably, I think you were too excited to give him the key that she just didn't even feature.

And now she probably thinks that you're trying to edge her out.

I hated when that used to happen.

When like your, your flatmate would start going out with somebody and then they'd just be there all the time.

And you'd be like, oh, for God, not him again.