Wendy K. Laidlaw

This is science-based that if we don't connect to our emotions, I did a podcast yesterday, which I talked about the gift of grief.

The gift of grief is poppy for me because had I not grieved

Jinty, she wouldn't be here now.

I would have deprived myself of this joy and this love and all these kisses and things because I would have switched off and numbed out from my grief and thereby I would have suppressed everything.

And then I would have, the pain would have got bigger and amounted more and I would have shied away from it.

And that's what tends to happen if we don't, if we aren't taught by our caregivers or our parents to

A, that that feeling state might, or A, you have a feeling state, B, that feeling state has a word and a language attached to it, then we don't know what to do with it.

And that's where a lot of the times we just want to stay numb.

Where our kind of default state is, I don't want to think about it.

I don't want to feel it.

Because what does that mean if we do that?

Because there's that feeling of power of like an electrical circuit, you know, getting too much power coming through and then a fuse being blown.

And in the past, we would go from fight flight into freeze and fold because there was just too much sensory information coming in.

And perhaps you had too much coming in at any one time.

I know myself, for me, there was a number of different things happened.

A number of different things happened.

No.

You see, you'll sleep next time in your bed.

There's a number of different, oh my goodness, she's getting restless.

Aren't you?