Wendy K. Laidlaw

So holding the murder to myself first is a form of accountability that I'm being respectful to myself first, that I matter first and foremost, and ensuring that others do not take advantage of me or my nature or sensitivity, etc.

The challenge I had and I see with many future end bosses is how their high level of perception and sensitivity to others and the world around them is often mocked, teased and

blame shamed and ridiculed by others then the end of bosses fear and want to disown and shove down their beautiful unique characteristics of sensitivity because ignorant others have not recognized nor appreciated those beautiful elements

So as one continues along the end of boss journey, do consider holding them out to a partner, to parents, family, peers, and professionals.

Of course, they're not going to like it if you've never done this before, but it's about you.

It's about your journey, about coming into you to hear you so that you can heal.

If you experience anxiety about the prospect of even approaching someone or getting clarity on something, then it tells you that you may be around a few or a large number of people

who do not want you to grow and want you to remain in pain.

So start by gently exploring in your journal every morning who you might be anxious about holding the mirror to.

Notice if you don't want to mention them by name even in your journal.

And if that's the case, if so, then just use their initials or even give them a nickname or an animal name in your journal.

But do write out your thoughts and feelings.

Otherwise, you'll just adapt and adopt to self-depreciating behaviours or perhaps addictions or numbing or things that are really not going to help you heal.

I realise now before I approach anyone about a sticky or repeated issue or problem, I journal it through my journal.

Then I sit with it for at least three days and I call it the three day rule.

Initially, I may get some information and notice how my body responds and some corresponding emotions that arise with a situation.

Then I write it all out on that on paper.

It's a very different exercise to typing it out.

So please use paper where you can.

If it's not possible to use pen and paper, then use your notes in your iPhone or indeed the new secure journal app on the phone.