Will Messer

We want to embrace both type of people though, right?

You know, that planner comes into it with a little bit more patience and willingness to maybe be spontaneous or maybe not have everything planned out that might stress out the more avoidant person.

But also for that avoidant person, more avoidant person to like, hey, you know what?

I better engage with this because this really matters to me and my partner and I want us to have a good trip.

It's part of the beauty of relationships as you get with somebody that helps you see you because they're different and they reflect your differences back to you.

What a great, I think, conversation for couples to have.

on the way home, like, this has been amazing.

What has been the best part about this?

And asking each other that.

That moment where it was just us and things were quiet,

And there wasn't a lot going on.

That was really awesome for me.

I wish we could do that more often.

Maybe when we get home, like I'd like to just get in the habit of sitting out on the back porch, you know, with a glass of wine, just chilling.

Maybe there's a way, a smaller way we can make this a more regular part of our life.

I think embracing travel is like not just an experience of what you're going to do or how you're going to relax, but like as cheesy as it may sound, what's it going to reveal about how I operate in the world and how my partner operates in the world?

We know couples that are bonded and they have a secure bond, all of the other things on their priority list, they're going to manage much more easily if they're in a safe, secure relationship.

It really buffers and insulates us against the negative impacts of stress.

It might be tips one through seven, honestly.