William Costello

It's like, oh, there's just a total scarcity of guys who meet my standards.

My standards are so high.

Things are so difficult.

I always feel like that about men who say they have types.

I'm like, I just don't buy it.

I think it's just a way from, in guys anyway, I think it's a way of just posturing like, oh, I can be so specific and narrow my choice parameters so much because I have so many options.

Yeah.

And I've been always a little bit susser, but I've never bought it.

Yeah.

But there is status afforded to women doing that in that ecosystem, in that social system of higher education where women are

dominating now, they're rewarded for espousing views like that.

So, you know, they're showing that they know the ideology of the leading status people in their world.

brusque as seen as higher competence right warmth is negatively associated with competence i think and i just think this uh kind of protectiveness that we have about women uh it just gets repackaged as oppression in a way and i get that you could be paternalistic and overly and a lot of kind of you know abuse of women does occur under the guise of for their own good and protection but it is astounding the extent to which we are more protective of

And even when you learn about some discrepancy, if it's against women, people are up in arms about it.

But if it's against men, it's like, no biggie.

Is attractiveness under-acknowledged as a kind of privilege?

Oh, I think so, yeah.

So on both ends of the spectrum.

So the pretty privilege, which also has its costs.

There's costs associated with being seen as pretty.