William Vanderbloemen
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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And that was self-awareness. So the unicorns, the 1%, the people who are best at self-awareness said that it was their worst of the 12. Like, I really gotta work on this. Now, if you flip the script, we also surveyed 250,000 people just randomly, like normal people like you and me. 91% of all those 250,000 said they were above average at self-awareness.
Like, I'm not a statistician, but I'm pretty sure there's not a group where 91% is above average. 50% is above, 50% is above. Like, we all think we're good. It's a major human blind spot. And people say, well, I don't know what you're talking about. What do you mean? Let me ask you this. Mike, do you remember back in your radio days the first time you heard your voice recorded? Oh, of course.
Yeah. And what was that like?
No, I hate it. I was like, who is this person? I don't want to put me back on. I don't want to listen to this. This is all, it's cringy, right?
that's the perfect example of how we see ourselves one way but the world perceives us another and the unicorns just get really determined at figuring out how is it people are seeing me what am i good at where do i need to get better while most of the rest of us just float along thinking i'm pretty good at all this the problem though is if you lack self-awareness you lack the ability to know you need to fix your self-awareness it's a bit of a chicken and an egg right
Yeah. I think though, Mike, we're living in maybe the best season ever for people who want to develop self-awareness. There are literally hundreds of personality profiles you can take to discover what your strengths are or what gives you energy or where you're good with other people. Like the Enneagram is super helpful. The disc inventory.
We actually built one around these 12 habits and tested it against the 250,000 and the 30,000. Like, where am I in these 12 habits against the general population and against the unicorns? And that gives me a map for knowing how I'm perceived and how I'm going to get better. So I think there's, it's by the way, sorry, shameless plug. If you go to vanderindex.com, you'll see that profile.
But there's so much that people can just take a first step.
So one of the 12 habits is the unicorns, the very best of the best, are...
incredibly authentic and they're perceived as incredibly authentic you know mike in a world where we are uh dealing with more and more automated ai driven uh phone calls from that are robo calls robo text robo anything that's truly humanly authentic is a higher value maybe than it's ever before so so how do i develop authenticity i'm going to give you one life hack Look people in the eye.
Now, I'm saying that both generally and very intentionally when I say look people in the eye. If you're if you're younger right now, if you're Gen Z and you're listening to this, the number one complaint recruiters at companies have with the interviews that Gen Z is giving them is that Gen Z doesn't look them in the eye. Isn't that interesting? They just don't look up. We've got seven kids.
And so our kids that don't use the phone but FaceTime us all the time, they'll FaceTime us. And then all I see is their nostrils because they're holding the phone and walking around. They're not actually looking at us. There's something lost in eye contact. So simply looking at people is first step toward authenticity. But here's the real meat of the life hack. We have two eyes. One is dominant.
One is peripheral. In other words, you see the world through one eye. The other eye just gives you perspective, depth perception, that sort of thing. 90% of all humans on the planet are right eye dominant. It's how scopes are built on rifles. It's how lots of things are built around the fact that most of us are right eye dominant.
So what that means is when you sit down with somebody to interface with them,
if you will look not at the not at the center of their nose you can't look there you can't look in both eyes at the same time if you will look people in the eye the right eye directly you've got a 90 chance of being right and what it produces is this have you ever sat in a room with somebody and talked to them and you go they made me feel like i was the only person in the room
chances are they were looking you dead in the eye. And I think that will convey a level of authenticity that makes people go, this person's different. They authentically care about me. They're authentically interested in me. And that one little life hack, I mean, just that one twitch, just look right at their right eye.
It could make all the difference in getting ahead at whatever it is you're trying to get ahead at.
Yeah, that unicorns get stuff done the very first chance they get. It's kind of like responding the very first chance you get. The top performers, the people who stand out in any crowd are the ones who actually go to bed saying, I got something done. And that can sound pretty overwhelming. But I think that... You know, maybe the best advice I've heard is some old management advice.
And if you've got time for a quick story, years and years ago, I had a really successful business guy mentoring me and very generous.
successful business guy mentoring me and he called me and said he owned a bank and he called me and said uh come to my office i'll give you a christmas present i'm like cool and this is kind of embarrassing but the whole way there i'm like i wonder what he got me i bet it's pretty cool oh man i wonder if it's this i wonder if that very selfish thoughts sorry but that's that's where i was and i got there and he handed me a little like oh
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